UPDATE FROM 4 YEARS AGO UP TO MARCH/08

From March/04 here is yvette, can I say new ? Happy ? What can I say I wanted to be skinny some day yes, I did. Biy I hag WLS everybody lost alot of pounds, but yvette didn't. I went from 300 to 200 in almost 2½ years. Then I got so depress I started to be so sad looking sucess stories and me? Well it's hurts being obese having the magical WLS and not losing what you exepted to. But last September after having a mayor surgery, my life change I got scare I got the thing that I have a cup of coffee in the morning and I'm not hungry at all. I'm not eating at all, sometimes it's 10:00pm and I'm missing something . I go around the apt. And I think did I ate something today? It's so bad , so discussting. I'm so depress again , I'm weighting 185 everybody says how nice I am now. Bit I'm not happy, I want to losse more. My mind can let me see how others see me. God bless you all , take care. Love you all.

Yvette: You look really nice in your pictures. Happiness comes from within yourself. Are you on anti-depressants.? Have you discussed with your doctor about how unhappy you are? I have found out through my own experience that some of us need a little help. That our hormones are "off" some and we need a little help. Mine also helps with the bllod pressure control We found this out when I was in the hospital for my WLS surgery. Please get help. I also went thru some counseling that helped me a lot. I was unhappy at home and at work and I felt everyone was against me. I only needed 3 sessions to turn my feelings around. And it might help you as well. Some employers have an EAAP program with some free counseling. Please check with your HR personnel and see if they have something like that.

Thanks for responding , yes I'm in conseling weekly, and taking anti-depresants meds. But it's like I'm swith off. I trying be like the old Yvette happy , I always was had been over weight and not shy , I never had thiskind of crisis so bad. I think it's I'm getting older, too. My hormones are low, something has to come good for me and cheer me up again. hoping it will be soon.

Happiness will happen, just give it time. One of these days you will stop and think, hey, I am happy........some of the things that made you happy are still there, you just gotta pull them up from deep inside. Think about a sunset, or watching a toddler as they walk around and find a leaf or puppy or kitty and want to play with it. Last night I sat on a screened in porch with an elderly friend and watched our husbands fish down at the dock and watched the sunset. It was beautiful. It was peaceful, it was happiness in the calm quiet of the evening. We were not thinking about anything else. We could have been thinking about her and the possibility or never being able to do her own laundry, about the possibility of having to go to a nursing home to live, about help coming in to live. But we put them aside for a mement and just sat and relaxed and enjoyed the quietness. See if you can find a little bit of quietness and happiness this weekend.

Beautiful, Martha. Wow. Thanks for this. Reenie

I felt such peace reading your postings Martha. I hope Vevette that you were able to feel some of the warmth and peace that came from reading them too. i've battled depression before at different times and have found help with the antidressants and from counciling. Thank god they are there when we need them. good luck and god bless, pam

Dear Yvette Sorry you are so unhappy, just remember you have done amazing on your weight loss. God Loves you just the way you are, always remember that & that you need to eat. I have lost weight this week as food has not been around all that much due to no money. But, I found I do have to eat something during the day. You are not helping the depression by not eating during the day. Please try & smile & You are loved by this board. Big hugs to you & hope you feel better soon. YOu are a beautiful person & just need to learn that from the inside. Ladybug Marilyn

Sweetheart, it's good to see you back here. Let me ask you this: is your therapist helping you? Do you feel like she/he is invested in your wellbeing, do you feel that she/he really cares about your progress and wants you to feel better? Or do you feel like you're just checking in once a week. Sometimes, we do not make the needed connection to a particular therapist and so we need to find another. Just think about that. And try to set aside the weight issue right now. Try to look at your life as if the issue of weight loss or weight gain or weight anything is not real, does not apply to you. If you can really set it aside, then you can look at the rest of your life to try and figure out what's making you so unhappy. Listen, I really believe menapause works us over pretty well - it's like having a baby...once you leave the hospital your life is never the same. Meanapuse is like that. Once it hits we can never go back to living life the way we used to. Why don't you do this: check in with the board once a week, just make a commitment to come here and say what you need to say. We'll listen. And that's the best gift any of us can give to another. Be well, Yvette. Reenie

Wow!!!!!!!!! Thank you all. It's so nice to have you all taking your time to read my post and writing so nice things that cheer me up. It's true thing around myself done make me happy. And I need to take care of it. End with things that bother me and make me unhappy. My boyfriend is one I want to stop the relationship and he seems to don't understand the message. My sons are doing better with their addictions. Those things maybee are the things that trigger my moods alot. My conserler is new and I'm trying to give us time to see if we can work together.

Yvette - I think you hit the nail on the head there with family and relationship issues. These things can take a normally happy person and turn their life upside down in an instant. I've dealt with lots of such things myself lately and although I still see times where I feel like my normal happy self, I suffer more now than I have in years. It takes time to navigate our way out of this. Medications don't always help. Sometimes you just need to take time to think and talk through your feelings so you can move on. Change what you can and let the rest be as it is. Easier said than done, but there it is.