Hello "Marchers"

Hello my "Marcher" Friends, I just wanted to let you all know that even if I do not post very often I come to the board every so often to touch base. I know, I know, I should post and become a part of this wonderful group again. The last couple of years have been challenging to say the least. I have been running a support group here in my little spot in the world. Which I stepped down from in Oct. It was time for me to let someone else take the lead. Plus, I needed the time to take care of and spend time with my hubby. Well, Hubby is no longer suffering as he pasted on Jan. 14th. Now I'm finding that I'm at lose ends. So here I am!!!!! Right back where I started with the "Marchers" I lost 160 pounds and now have gained back about 40 so I'm looking into having a revision done. I think a lot of my gain is due to the fact that I was cooking to try to put weight on my hubby and then the last year I have had to stay very close to home to care for him. And did I forget to mention STRESS was also in the mix. Now that he is gone I'm finding that it is very hard to convince my brain to get back on the right road. Plus, I really am missing him. We were married over 30 years. So a lot of new things coming at me. Feel like I'm 13 again and I don't know if any of you remember what 13 was like but..........it's not an age I wanted to do again!!!!! But I regress ...............I really just wanted to let you all know that I thank you for being there for me even if you never knew. I'll bet there are a few more folks like me that come just to touch base. Thank you "Marchers" I hope that I can now be there for someone like ya'll have been there for me. See ya around the board......................Betsy

HI Betsy Very Sorry about your Husband & I hope you know you can come here when you need to cry or laugh & we will try & get you through this tough time. We all struggle with our weight on a daily basis, so don't feel too bad about that. 40 lbs can come back off. Just work on a day at a time & start with baby steps. Start moving (walking or something to get your mind & body off the alone time) Maybe go back to that support group just for something to do. Keep posting here, Glad you are back. Hang in there & hope we can help. Ladybug Marilyn

Thanks Marilyn, I am taking it very slow and the thing about it is.......I know I'll be okay it's just... WHY does everything have to take a pound of flesh before it gets better. Ahhhhh maybe that was not the right thing to say I'd love to lose a pound just not this way!!!! I still go to my support group just decided that I didn't need to be running it any more at least for awhile. Just need to go back to the basic's and this is where I started so here I am. Take care..............Betsy

Betsy, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Not many people on the planet can say they remained married to the same life partner for 30 years, and happily. There are no words to take away your pain and sorrow - just know that Marchers all over the country are thinking good and kind and gentle thoughts for you. You've come to the right place, we're here for you and I for one will benefit from learning about your struggles with food and regain...I'm at an all time post-op high and am terrified. But still trying to figure it out and stop this train wreck before it happens. Take care, stay close, post often, and rest your mind, your heart, your soul. Be well, Betsy. Reenie (P.S., I admit that I don't remember you, were we around this board at the same time???)

Thank you Reenie, Yes, it has been a very long time. I was on the board all the time at the start of this journey. Back when we gave our selves silly names and were all scared to death of our upcoming surgeries. I feel like I know you very well because I come to the board every once in awhile. And I've read your articles in WLS Lifestyles. Thanks for a the kind words and I'll be around so we can get to know each other. Take care..............Betsy The Offishal Jester to the Courts of Squirrels from long ago!!!!!

Do you remember "Mama Angel" - that was when I first came on board, right before my pending surgery. I wa SO TERRIFIED and felt so alone. The people on this board just wrapped their arms around me and said, "Shush, we'll take care of you until you can take care of yourself." Look how far we've come - not many of the originals left but I love these folks like family. Stay close to us!!! Reenie