Going to Bed Alone
It has been a while since I have posted. Thanks, Reenie, for your kind e-mail. I am very proud to say that I am still very sober 
and active in my recovery from alcoholism and eatingism, too! I have learned so much in these last seven months. I thought I might pass one on to you guys. That is the blessing of going to bed at night "alone."
What that means is learning tolerence for others. Where I used to always insist on "being right" all the time or getting angry at others and other behaviors that created havoc, I now try to be tolerant of others behavior, either avoiding conflict or apologizing for my selfish behaviors as soon as possible so that I don't have to go to bed at night, unable to sleep because that person's face keeps cropping up in my mind with all sorts of daggers and bad feelings attached to it. (sound familiar?) You know, the one that surfaces just as you are trying to get to sleep and your mind just won't let it go? I have learned that by letting go of those resentments as soon as they crop up eliminates that garbage and those faces don't appear anymore. Serenity becomes possible. I don't eat over it anymore, either. Eighty-five percent of our fears never materialize...and our anger is rarely worth the pain it causes. I got fat over it and nearly drowned over it with alcohol. I don't have to do that anymore.
Anyway, I have started a new support group for WLS friends with over two years sobriety who are beginning to gain weight. We are working on the psychological piece of the puzzle as well as identifying our weaknesses in our eating patterns. We had a great meeting for strategic planning and definately found that we are stronger as a group than trying to do it alone. We reached out for those who had begun to isolate due to weight gain and reeled them in!!! I'll keep you posted as we progress! I've lost six pounds so far.
Blessings to you all and thanks for your support and posts!
Hugs,
Karen
and active in my recovery from alcoholism and eatingism, too! I have learned so much in these last seven months. I thought I might pass one on to you guys. That is the blessing of going to bed at night "alone."
What that means is learning tolerence for others. Where I used to always insist on "being right" all the time or getting angry at others and other behaviors that created havoc, I now try to be tolerant of others behavior, either avoiding conflict or apologizing for my selfish behaviors as soon as possible so that I don't have to go to bed at night, unable to sleep because that person's face keeps cropping up in my mind with all sorts of daggers and bad feelings attached to it. (sound familiar?) You know, the one that surfaces just as you are trying to get to sleep and your mind just won't let it go? I have learned that by letting go of those resentments as soon as they crop up eliminates that garbage and those faces don't appear anymore. Serenity becomes possible. I don't eat over it anymore, either. Eighty-five percent of our fears never materialize...and our anger is rarely worth the pain it causes. I got fat over it and nearly drowned over it with alcohol. I don't have to do that anymore.
Anyway, I have started a new support group for WLS friends with over two years sobriety who are beginning to gain weight. We are working on the psychological piece of the puzzle as well as identifying our weaknesses in our eating patterns. We had a great meeting for strategic planning and definately found that we are stronger as a group than trying to do it alone. We reached out for those who had begun to isolate due to weight gain and reeled them in!!! I'll keep you posted as we progress! I've lost six pounds so far.
Blessings to you all and thanks for your support and posts!
Hugs,
Karen 
I am SO proud of you...would that I lived in VA! Reenie 
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