IS ANYONE ELSE GAINING WEIGHT???
Oh Maureen,
I have not weighed myself but I have been binging since Saturday morning. If it is a carbohydrate I have eaten it in the last few days. My love life is the problem so I am trying to end the relationship, at least until he make some changes in his life. Unfortunately we work together so the break up terms when we broke up Monday (after a weekend I spent so miserable it literally SCARED me) were that we will not see eachother outside of work and not sleep together. Monday night I ate like it was a full-time job. Today not AS bad but then again I haven't gone home yet. I had an appointment already scheduled with my therapist for Monday morning and it went ok, he promised me I will not be depressed forever or become a hermit. These are real fears to me, I can't shake them. Anyway, I thought now was the time because of the scary weekend and because I had a therapy appt scheduled already AND because it is a short week at work so I would have more time away not looking at him than usual. So far it's been rough. I am afraid of the scale right now.
Sorry no help but I've been wanting to talk about this so I totally hijacked the opening you made.
Jen
Hi Reenie,
It seems like I follow what happens to you. There were a few times when you'd say that this would happen or that would happen and bingo a few weeks later it would happen to me. I remember one time you saying that all of a sudden you were hungry. I can't rember how long ago this was maybe about 6 months ago. At the time I thought gee I can't imagine being hungry at all and within 3 weeks I started to feel hunger. Then another time you had said that you could eat more. I'd look at my egg and think gee this is such a chore to eat 3/4 of a egg I cant' imagine eating the whole thing! Sure enough within 3 weeks I could eat the whole egg and then a 1/4 of a 1/4 of a mini bagel. There were other things similar to those that I would end up mirroring. Not only with you but with others in the group who had their surgery a few weeks before me.
All of you were such a help to me when those things would happen I remembered what each of you did to combat them.
so, while right now this minute I am not at the point of gaining weight I will listen to what you have to say.
I can tell you to do all the things that you already know. Like the water load. Like watching the carbs. But if we really stop and think a minute we didn't get to the point of having this surgery becasue we didnt' know how to diet or what to eat. We knew exactly what we should be doing we didn't do it. We didnt' eat right. We didn't excersize.
The surgery has made us "normal sized" but it hasn't taken away the stuff inside our heads. Oh sure at first it did. Why does that go away??? I want a labotamy!!!!!
We have to want to stay right were we are. WE have to listen to ourselves this time. Don't let it get to the point were we have to have surgery again.
We all must know someone who had the surgery that gained a good amount of their weight back. I've heard the horror storys of this one or that one going to a store and bumpinginto someone that they knew who had the surgery and gained it back. In fact I saw someone who I could swear was my nurse at middlesex hospital who had the surg;ery 8 months before me. She looked wonderful the last time I'd seen her about 8 months ago. Then I saw her a couple of weeks ago and I hardly didn't recognize her. She had gained all of and maybe more of the weight back. I didn't talk to her because I wasn't positively sure if it was her. The part that scared me almost to death was that she no longer looked into the eyes of others. Her head was down. She only made eye contact for a minute and in her eyes was such god awful sadness. I don't know what happened to her. When I'd talked to her 8 months ago she was having a problem with an ulcer. Maybe if that was her the medicines she could have been on was making her gain? I dont' know I really don't know.
It did put a mega fear into me. I am still watching and weighing the foods that I eat. I measure the low carb high protein cereal. I weigh my tuna, hamburger, chicken. I dont eat mayonaise or sugar things. I dont' bring them into the house. If someone in my family wants that stuff they can go buy it and eat it out there.
Now dont' get me wrong I do have treats. And this week on thanksgiving I will have a sliver of pumpkin pie. No ice cream.
I weigh myself almost every day. I have 2 to 3 pounds that I play with. I dont' understand it because the weeks that I am perfect are the weeks that those 3 pounds are higher on the scale than lower! Those are the weeks that I am almost a nut case with the weighing and measuring.
I'd like to think that I'm doing well becuase I'm doing what I should but I'm also smart enough to know that in 3 more weeks I could be gaining.
so. what ever helps you if it is to type away and vent do it. I wish I could help. all i can do is listen.
Maureen You've dont' such a fantastic job of being there for all of us. You always have the answers when we need them. I know you'll get this straight too.
Thanks, Pam, for your wisdom. I am experiencing all of the things you mention but I am also letting the emotional demon win these daily battles more often than not, hence I am gaining. My lowest weight was 141; two days ago, I weighed in at 149. I swore I would NEVER cross that 150 mark again, so I've dug in, committed to the exercise and eating well, and have begun to slowly turn things around again. The scary thing is it's all so much more difficult to stabilize or even lose a couple of pounds -- much more difficult than it was 3 months ago. So, like you, I am frightened to see where I'll be 3 months later...thanks for always, always being there, my friend. Maureen
Yes Yes I have been gaining- I have not posted here in so long. I started at 300 lbs. 5'8", got down to 131 lbs. in May- everyone was telling me how terrible I looked so I cut back on exercise and tried to eat more. The gastric bypass doctor says I should be between 140-145. I have been sticking around 155-160. But right now I am at 170 because obviously I have been eating like a pig and I had an arthritis flare up and could not exercise. I am an exercise nut and that has always kept me in check. I went to the plastic surgeon yesterday for a consult and he thinks I should weigh about 150 before surgery- I have a lot more muscle than I used to. I am wearing a size 8, but I was down to a 4 or 6. When you are as disfunctional as I am about food, it is so hard to find the proper weight and maintain it. I seem to only be able to lose weight or gain it. I do feel very confident that I can get down to 150 by the end of January, if not to 140. But it is so frightening how I can vary by 20-40 pounds so easily- it doesn't seem normal. I can eat pretty much anything and a pretty good amount. So now it is willpower and exercise that I must rely on- I hope my 9 months of doing almost perfectly on my diet and exercising religiously (March- December 04) taught me how I can stay thin. I am scared of failing as I did so many times before, but I think I can do it. Good luck to you. The holidays are especially tough.
Yes, Yes, Yes
I am attributing it to the left over halloween candy that Alton keeps buying. I keep putting it in my mouth. I have gained 10 lbs back. I am still in the 12 jeans.
I did read somewhere that you do gain some back and then level off. That is what I am hoping is happening to me. I seem to not be able to stop eating. It mostly happens when I am at work. Now I have to get through the holidays. Then I am going to concentrate on the tt. And I hope it will all settle back down. My life has changed so much since I met Alton and now the holidays and getting married.
I KNOW these are all excuses. And we all have our own that we use. But I sure hope I am not going to keep gaining it all back.
Yes I have......And no, I don't know why!!! I've gained 5 lbs. and it ****** me off. Ever since I had the shoulder surgery, I've eaten everything that can't out-run me!! I'm really struggling right now, although I'm trying to counteract the calories with extra exercise. If it wasn't for the extra exercise, I'd probably have gained 20 lbs.!!
Mike
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