OUT OF CONTROL

THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR YOUR RALLY IN SUPPORT OF MY S.O.S. I debated posting because I really didn't want to bring people down. I always want to be there for all of you, to be strong for you and offer my unconditional love and support when times are tough for you and most times I feel able to do that. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW YOU'VE HELPED ME THROUGH THIS LAST "EPISODE" -- I am calmer today and more in control. I am seeing a bit more clearly. Sometimes, we just have to stop swimming, call for a life line and be pulled along a little bit of the way so that we can recouperate. Does that make sense? Thank you so much. I am so grateful to you. Have a good day, all. Maureen

Maureen; First off, thank God your daughter is OK. Second of all, I'm not able to do much typing right now, but please know that I'm very concerned and I'm here for you. Give me a call if you need a shoulder to cry on (I still have one good one!!) BIG HUGS. Mike

Reenie - just read your post (I only stop by about once a week). I know you'll get through this. You're one of the stronger, more determined people I've met through OH. We've all experienced similar times and eventually find our equilibrium. Part of what I've learned to do is in the midst of the binge I just let go of the recriminations and guilt and tell myself that I'll get through this and I know what to do to get back on track. The 7 lbs you gained is mostly fluids. You're probably eating more carbs and they hold fluids in your system. That weight will go away quickly again now. See a therapist if you have one. A friend of mine made me sit down one day - on a good day - and had me set up and organize what I would do - who I'd call or talk to etc. if things started to go bad. I have a plan in place whi*****ludes a therapist I can see on a moments notice and some support friends ready to jump in. It helps just to know that you have a plan. My heart is with you as you face the stress of the coming months. But I know you can do it. You are an incredibly strong woman. love, Gail

Reenie, It has been a long time since I visited this board. I think this is a good place for me to come because I can so much relate with what you posted here and the answers you got. Sometimes it seems I can eat so much. I have noticed though that it's the carbs I can eat so much of. Dense protein still fills my pouch quickly. I too have the snacking, grazing, almost but not quite binging episodes usually in the evenings. I get very disgusted with myself. I can also relate to where you are in your marriage. It seems so many of us have relationship problems after wls. There are so many changes in us, everything seems to get out of balance. I hope you find some peace with what you are going through. As hard as it is, sometimes it's better to move on, and if you feel you have done everything you can, there is no need to feel alot of regret. I am sending positive thoughts your way. I plan to visit and post more often. Dorothy

Hi Reenie, First God Bless you, and I am happy your daughter is going to be ok. I want to tell you that I know (exactly )how your feeling I never thought I would say this but I do have one regret about having this Wls, just one.... It went from a Blessing for me personaly a life saving tool for me being such a bad diabetic, to being a Gigantic wedge between my fiance and I . The sad thing is I dont know how to fix it , I even went to talk to my Priest over all our problems. We both went together which was a plus. I wont continue to be upset everyday and when I am lost in a moment of thought, self pitty or just feeling low, I find myself going in and out of the fridge all day long...putting something in my mouth every 20 minutes or so, I have started keeping loose leaf lettuce right there eye levil so when I open the fridge door, and if I am feeling stressed I grab a big hunk of lettuce and chew it up slow...usually does the trick. I must gain control of this before it destroys everything I have worked so hard to accomplish these past 18 months. I havnt posted because I didnt have anything positive to share, but your post has stuck a nerve with me.... I am sitting here sobbing like a big baby feeling sorry for myself..seems like were all dealing with some "new issues", I wish someone would have told me before that wls can end a loving 8 yr. relationship faster than I can eat 6 Oreo's.....(and not even dump) God willing we will all get thru this....I will keep you all in my prayers , please do the same for me! I appreciate all of you and I wish we all could meet in one place just for a big Group hug!! We deserve it!!!! Hugz Mary

Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry - I see you sitting there and crying and it breaks my heart. You are not alone in this! Please don't stay away for so long again. Listen, I am doing and feeling much better since this post and it's because I reached out for help. Please read my response to Elizabeth and know that I throw everything I said to her right back to you. We can do this, together we can accomplish anything if we want it bad enough. This will never be easy. But it is doable. Love, Maureen

THANKS AGAIN TO EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU WONDERFUL, WONDERFUL PERSONS FOR YOUR GUIDANCE AND SUPPORT. YOUR FRIENDSHIP MEANS THE WORLD TOMORROW -- EVEN IF WE NEVER MEET FACE TO FACE, YOU HAVE ALL CHANGED MY LIFE FOR THE BETTER, IN SO MANY WAYS. Love and peace to you, Maureen