thanks to everyone!

i'm so sorry - you guys all gave me such great advice on my last post. and i wanted to reply to each and every one, but i just never seemed to have the time. the new job is consuming sooo much of my time - it seems like i just barely have time to come home, eat dinner, shower, and get things around for the next day before it's time to go to bed. anyway, i wanted to thank you all for sharing your stories, ideas, insight, and understanding with me. your support means so much to me. thins with damien and i are much better - we're continuing on the couple's therapy and i'm still going by myself as well - as i know most of our problems stem from my insecurity and lack of self-esteem. so, i'm trying to work on those things. you guys mean the world to me - i'm so sorry it took me so long to get out some sort of reply. there's just so much that i wanted to say to each of you that responded to me - i just couldn't find the time to do that. just know that it wasn't unappreciated or unnoticed - some of your replies really hit home with me and my husband. i actually printed out the thread and let him read it as well. thank you all so very much. take care, kym

I'm glad to hear that things are going a bit better. Don't expect over-night change. It has taken us all a long time to create and carry the baggage we have become accustomed to carrying--it is going to take a while to figure out how to set it down! Getting objective, trained help is the smartest thing any of us can do. Joy

i certainly understand the rigor of getting home and allovasudden it's bedtime!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just take care of you and drop in when you can!! we are here for ya!!!!!!

Glad to hear things are better for you. Hang in There!! Everyday will get better as you let yourself grow. Marilyn, the Bearlady