Ego boost

Talk about an ego booster, well I had one this weekend. My fab buttocks are dragging a bit as the earliest I got to bed on Friday through Sunday mornings was 4:00 am as I attended my 20th high school reunion. Let me preface this a bit by saying I was one of the BMOC's back in the day. But the good thing about that was I didn't treat people badly so as a result, I was well liked. Now, 20 years rolls around, and guess who shows up about 20 lbs lighter then he was in high school? Suffice to say, I received some incredible compliments and was told I look like I could run back to the halls of the school and be in high school again. I had a great time and reconnected with some good friends. The funny thing was some of the unwanted attention I received from some of the ladies, but I can say that after this weekend it reinforced to me that I'm already with the woman of my dreams. Not saying I didn't flirt a bit, but I knew that it wasn't going beyond that. It also reiterated to me just why I had this surgery, so that I could live and make not only my 30th but beyond that as well.

Great For you Ken! I think i'd like to go to my reunion as I am actually smaller right now than I was in High School. How amazing is that. Hang on to the ego, that way you will never gain the weight back. Marilyn, the Bearlady

Ken, enquiring minds want to know....what does the woman of your dreams think about all this attention you're getting at every corner you turn? Share some insight into your marriage for those of us who are struggling...what's the secret to staying together -- and happy -- with a person who stayed with us passively throughout our severely morbid obesity and now who wish to stay with us alongside these "new" and "improved" "normal-sized" bodies? Your Reenie

Well, it is all new to me. I think there are a lot of things as a society that are different now in that "cheating" isn't what it used to be and a ring doesn't slow many of them down. As I said, in high school I was a BMOC, but a bit heavy. I lost my baby fat in college and really started to play the field when I met my wife. I double my body weight, but she stays with me. Now I lose half of myself and she puts up with me. My point is that it is hard because I like the attention of being desired. I always had a personality but now it is amped up a bit because I'm like how I look and I less worried about what people think of me. Add in to it the feeling of being so alive, and you put off a persona that can be attractive to some people. The bottom line is that my wife enjoys the new me. We talk often and I try to get her to understand that I appreciate her and how she is taken all of this in. At the same time, she has made it clear that cheating is unforgiveable and that it should not happen. I have also shared with her the wonderful feeling of being looked upon as an oddity for a period of time and now being noticed as something that is attractive. It is funny, there was this one girl whom I had happy thoughts about in high school that did not give me the time of day. She had a group of about five other girls and they were all a bit snobby, but it was high school. Anyway, I overheard her this weekend say to her little group as I was walking by how "damn cute" I was now. The fact is I was just as cute in high school, but I was a bit more reserved as I was concerned about what other would think. I wish I had the answers, it is work in progress. I think we seem to forget that this has impacted our SO's life as well. I have now learned not to put myself in a postion where I can get into trouble. Which means avoiding too much alcohol and being without backup. This weekend I made it clear to my buddies that after my wife left that in no uncertain terms was I to be placed in a position where I could get in trouble. And to top it all off, my wife is just a neat lady. I had a girlfriend that I date off and on for the four years of school. My wife gets along with her really well and this weekend she told my wife that she always new it would take a special person to be married to me. I'm a goof ball. If I were a dog I'd be a lab. I'm just a big old puppy looking for a good time. But what it really come down to is knowing that you found the person *****ally is your soulmate, and not doing anything to screw that up. Hope this helps.