Wow Seems like forever....

Yepp its me.... Sorry have not been on board so much has happend.. I have not had internet for a very long time.. My life has taken a big turn since last on here.. After the surgery my marriage just went down hill.. We finally make the decesion to divorce. I have moved to Ga where i have met a wonderful guy his name is Jason.. I am doing great... Have had a few medical problems like low sugar and low blood pressure and a herna now..but i am sure this is normal for WLS ...I am now 140 pounds and have some new pics on my profile... Have missed so many of you... was checking some profiles ...i am amazed at everyone ... we have come a long ways havent we.... Hugs Misty

Misty - Good to hear from you! I remember what a horrible time you had after surgery. It's good to hear you are well - even though you are having some issues. Sounds like they can be treated though. Sorry to hear about your marriage. Sounds like this is a common problem though, unfortunately. You do look beautiful though and congrats on the new boyfriend! Please stick around and keep us updated on what's going on with you! Dina

Oh My Dina your looking great! I bet like me you love to go shopping for clothes...funny tho i still find myself going to the plus size side of the store even tho i am in a 8 now...my boyfriend tells me all the time ...baby your in the wrong dept...LOL old habits are hard to give up.. I still cant do sweets i guess thats a good thing tho.. and i still dump alot on some foods. But all and all i can pretty much eat what i want. I do keep candy bars in the house and take a small bite to raise my sugar up as i am getting really no sugar intake and get sick alot...You know its strange how some of us can do sugar and others not...and was wondering if they did a study to see if the ones who went back to sugar where the ones to gain back weight and the ones not are the ones to maintain there weight.....hummm theres a thought... My ex hubby was a great supporter of my sugery and have to thank him for standing by me the whole time..But it seemed the more i lost the worst my marriage got.. we found we had NOTHING in comman..I want to go go go ...do things get outdoors be around people laugh smile ...My ex loved the indoors and never really like company he was a real loner..I felt so trapped and was so scared i would get so depressed and go back to old habits.. we talk so many nights about how i felt and he would not meet me in the middle of this..And well i thought it surely would make the sex better between us ...boy was i so wrong..it was only worse..So i made the decesion for my life to get my life back and i left...you never know in life if you have made the right decesion..But i am truley much happier these days... The only thing that sucks is i lost my insurance and never got the tummy tuck i would have loved to have had..But i can live with that! Anyways it was so nice seeing you on the board ...you look so great!!!! It seems after we lose all this weight we find who we truely are hiding behind all those pounds... Hugs Misty

Well thank you so much Misty! I still feel like I have a ton to lose, but I am definitely more comfortable in my own skin now than I was a couple years ago! If I never lost another pound I'd be disappointed but still so much more comfortable and free than I thought possible! I think it's sad that when we lose the weight we find sometimes that the things we had in common with our spouses were things that we defaulted into. I am thankful my husband still has more energy than me...sometimes I feel like the same bump on a log that I was before surgery...just thinner, but then I have to remind myself that I am a computer geek and I don't know if that will ever go away. What can I say? I like the warm glow of a computer over the warm glow of a fire at the local ski lodge? Still, I do find myself so much more outgoing than I was 130 lbs ago, and I know that it unnerves my husband. He is trying to cope with those insecurities and I'm trying to reassure him the best way I know how. But I don't want to pull back my enthusiasm either. I want to go out and be who I really am. I just held back for so many years because of my weight and now I feel unshackled by that, so I'm so much more social. That is a struggle because he's just NOT social. As for the PS, I am going to try to get mine done, but I have a feeling it will be a fight. Insurance or no, I have a feeling I'm going to commiserate with you. If all else fails, I'm going to Brazil for my plastics when I sock away enough money! And if I do that, you can BET YOUR SWEET BIPPY A FACE LIFT WILL BE A-COMIN'! I got a little waddle under my chin that is NOT going to take up permanent residence here! Dina

So good to hear from you again, Misty! Your bravery in taking charge of life leaves me speechless. Maureen

WoW...Reenie you look great!.... I am not sure taking charge of my life is a good thing or not at this point but truely a learning experence... I just know being depressed and letting people walk all over my emotions and always doing for others and forgetting about myself is what got me into this mess with my weight issue over the past 10 yrs ...I mean yes i have always been a little over weight but food was my confort for my heart hurting inside..I could not go back to that again. I seen it happen again right before i made the decesion to divorce my hubby..Yes it was so hard to do.... walk away from the confert zone i so got use to for so many years.. But today i can honestly say i am the happiest i have been in many many years...It was so good seeing you on the board again... Hugs Misty

HI Misty, I don't think I remember you, But, welcome back!! I haven't been on this board all that long & sure know how you feel about the Husband issue. I just dumped my boyfriend after 7 years. It was hard to do, but, in the long run I feel much better for it. I am sure there is someone out there lurking, just, haven't found him yet!! Started a new job today, who knows maybe he will show up there. I think we have all been dealing with the old habits trying to come back, we just have to fight them & keep on truckin and we will win this battle. Thanks for coming back & keep us posted on how you are doing!! Marilyn, the Bearlady (by the way, I am Bearlady as I collect Bears & have lots of them!!) Just in case this board didn't no that!! (stuffed bears, not real He,He)

Good Morning Marilyn... Thanks so much for posting to me that was very sweet of you hun...Bears oh my i love me some bears too...but the huggable kissable ones like i have right now....LOL just kidding.. Well i will say this your a very beautiful woman and you should find a cuddable bear real soon.. and NO Marilyn not the kind you and put on a shelf or on your bed...well second that thought ...hummm LOL Yes food is still a very big battle for me...but thank god i can not do sugar anymore.. that has so helped me ..I found my biggest down fall is the carbs ...I love me some fried chicken.. Even tho i can not eat much of it i charish every little bit to the very end ...My boyfriend says ..( Misty it takes you over and hour to eat that piece of chicken ).....LOL i tell heck yeah i am gonna enjoy this piece of chicken as long as i can... Well you have a great day hun wish you luck in the future... Hugs Misty

Hello, Misty! So glad to see you. Sorry to hear that your life has been a rollercoaster ride. There has been so much to learn about ourselves and life in the last year! I'm glad that your post shows so much happiness now. Don't be a stranger! Joy

Hi Misty; I think that I joined the board while you were away, but it's nice to meet you. It sounds like you have had more than your fair share of troubles post-surgery. I admire you for your ability to keep such a positive attitude despite your troubles. The good folks on this board have made my journey a much more pleasant one. I'm happy that you have re-joined us and hope to be hearing from you again. Best wishes!! Mike