Kidney stone problems and blacking out

My kidney stones keep coming back........I just want this kidney out!!! And for the past month i have benn having periods of blackouts. Its like no one here understands. My boyfriend is mad because i don't feel like going out, and that seems all he wants to do. I never know when i am gonna blackout, and i hate going places, because i am at one place and wke up at home. He doesn'/t seem to understand, or seem to care either. We are in the mist of breaking up, because he don't seem to be supportive of my health now and he just acts like it is all about him. He wants to act like a child. I am 31 yrs old and at this stage of my life I want stability and family life, not party party party. The only part of our relationship that seems to work at this point is sex, and lately that isn't that great, cuz once again it is all about him. Thanks for letting me vent. All I want is to feel better, and have a normal life, but then again what the heck is normal anyhow???

Feel better, Tanya. And blacking out is not a typical symptom of kidney stones; get to your doctor asap and get some tests done. Good luck. Reenie

Tanya, I come from the dysfunctional kidney family and I have questions for you. Are you seeing a kidney specialist or a regular pcp for this? Get yourself a really good nephrologist who can get to the bottom of this. If that nephrologist can't find a solution, short of kidney removal, find another one. Have you been diagnosed with a kidney disease such as Polycystic Kidney Disease or Medullary Sponge Kidney? People do not not normally keep getting stones over and over again unless there is some underlying disease. Have you had your blood pressure and sugar levels checked on a regular basis? It might be worth investing in a home blood pressure checker thingy. According to my nephrologist, drops in blood pressure are often caused by low blood volume, which sometimes happens in people with kidney disease. You've got to keep your blood volume up by drinking lots and lots of water. It will also help flush stones while they are smaller and less painful. I know you keep talking about wanting your kidney out, but people with only one kidney reduce their life expectancy. Should something go wrong with your remaining kidney, you'll find yourself on dialysis and a transplant list. Trust me, dialysis is not a good time. A lifetieme of anti-rejection meds is not a good time. Tanya, you've got to be aggressive in your treatment of this. Demand answers. If I were in your situation, I'd find out if my insurance would cover the Mayo clinic and see about going through them for a diagnosis if the doctors in your area can't come up with a cause and treatment. Maybe instead of removing the kidney, you'll feel much better if you remove the boyfriend. Connie

Tanya, These blackouts you are having are sure not normal. Please find another Doctor if they can't seem to find out the problem. I don't think the blackouts are related to your kidney stones. It most likely is something totally different. Please don't let it go, it could mean your life. Oh yeah & dump the boyrfirend I did that recently & feel much better about a lot of things. Marilyn, the Bearlady

I was the 3rd uroligist friday, and he is doing another cystoscopy next month. I drink plenty of water. I have the big 64 oz cup from Quik Trip and drink 3 of them a day of water. I don't drink soda or any other thing besides water. I am afraid to eat, and drink, cuz i am retaining water like a dam. I had an IVP done 4 days after my last stone removel (6/6/05) and i already had new stones forming. I am only peeing out about 5 to 8 oz of pee a day. That is what scares me. I am retaining and bloating. And yes the removal of the boyfriend is the next best answer. I am still married, but separated, and we have been talking alot lately and have decided that we need to give it another go around. Its just the transition of getting the bf out of my house and life. I tried to explain to him, yes i love him, but at the same time i love my husband, and I have to do what i feel is best for my kids and me. I told the bf that he needs to understand this isn't about me hurting anyone, because I will be hurt no matter what way it goes. Like I said to my husband, I guess I needed this time away, to find myself, discover what i wanted, and to find out that my family life with him and the kids is what i have wanted all along. I want the family thing to work and i know we can do it. We have said everything thing that has happened up till the point we move back together is forgiven and forgotten, and our lives start from that moment on, no looking back and no regrets. My only regret is that i didn't find myself till now. Its funny, because if i get sick, my husband knows it, even though he is 50 miles away. I can be throwing up in the bathroom, or passed out, and he feels it, calls home and the kids say yes mommy is sick again. I don't think that kind of love or conection comes along very often in one's life, and i want to have that back, and make it work. By the months end the bf will be gone, i hope sooner. He plays that pity party thing, where will i go what will i do. Ok like grow up and figure it out yourself i say. Anyhow, I hope this new doctor can get to the bottom of my kidney problems, because i hate being sick. Thanks for all your concerns!!! I am so glad we have this board, because it is like a family, we can lean on each other when we need to. ((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))) to each and everyone of you!!!

Tanya, SO sorry to hear you are having kidney trouble. I said a prayer for you and hope that they can find a soultion to the problem. You keep doing what you are doing by drinking tha****er and such. Try adding fruit to your diet I find it really helps my overall health. We are all thinking about you and hoping you feel better soon. ((hugs)) Elizabeth M