Cruise roommate problem

I posted this on the main board but thought I would share it here with the Marchers family. I am going on the cruise to Alaska with other OH members. Since I am traveling alone, the travel agent arranged for me to sahre a cabin with a lady, Mona, from Seattle. We have corresponded via e-mail and talked on the phone. We even made plans for the cruise and what to do. Her surgery date was April 26 and I emailed her with support. I have not heard from her lately but figured she was dropping weight like all of us the first few weeks. The travel agent called me to finish booking the trip and asked if I had heard about Mona. No. Mona did not make it out of surgery. She threw a blood clot (according to her daughter, who I spoke to yesterday). I am so upset. Mona and I had never met but we wrote back and forth and talked. I sort of encouraged her when doubts arose regarding the surgery. She was concerned about blood clots. I just told her to trust her surgeon. It really freaks me out. The only good thing to come of it is that she was a Christian and I know she loved the Lord. I tried to encourage her daughter with this thought but it is so hard when you lose a parent so young. She was only 49. I don't think Mona had a profile here but she did visit the site. Thanks to listening to my grief. Jane

God, Jane, I'm so sorry. To hear stories of people not making it is still so chilling and unnerving, especially now having been so fortunate to have regained my life because of this surgery. My prayers go out to Mona's family -- and to you, I really understand how you must be feeling. Take good care. Reenie

Jane, Every one of us had fears and concerns before surgery. When you are at the point where you are considering wls, you're pretty desperate to get your life back. Before surgery, I decided that I would rather die fighting to get my life back rather than sit back and slowly die a painful death. I think that each and every one of us who decides to go forward with this surgery is a hero. I'm so sorry that your friend has passed, but I would take comfort in the fact that she is no longer suffering from the pain and heartache that obesity brings and is with her Lord. Hugs, Connie