why won't the weight come off???

Joan, I have not lost much weight in the last three months and I told myself that if I don't lose another pound, just accept it and be happy. I am 5'7 and wear a size 12/14. I am healthy and look pretty good. These are the two main reasons I did this surgery, not to be a certain size. Allow yourself to love you now, where you are. If more weight loss comes love yourself then if not, your a size 6- a size 6!! People would kill to be a size 6- enjoy it. Dawn

Someone explain to me why we continue to beat ourselves up. The one thing I refuse to do is what I did in my teens. I weighed 115 lbs (I'm 5'4") and I thought I needed to lose weight which started the whole ball rolling of my every increasing weight over the next 30 years. I refuse to be worried about a number. Does it really matter in the scheme of things if I lose 127 lbs or 130 lbs. Am I any less of a person or unsuccessful because I didn't reach that exact number. Sorry but I get very angry at seeing people beat themselves up because they didn't reach some imaginary number they have set for themselves. I was in that cycle too because I am a very goal oriented person that I had to reach a certain number or I am not successful. When I sat and thought about this and realized the insanity of it I said to myself wait a minute. I have lost 130 lbs, this is an amazing feat. Never in the last 20 years did I ever think to see a size 10 again. Now that it is here I am going to enjoy every minute of it and thank my luck stars that things have advanced enough that I could get here. Sorry for venting but this has been on my mind the last month since my own weight loss has slowed and I was beating myself up for it. I decided that I needed to concentrate on the positive and not dwell on the negative in order to remain successful because by dwelling on the negative I could then give myself an excuse for not continuing down the path I started a year ago.

Yes what you are saying is right. I do love myself, but for me I would love to lose more, and I will try to do so, if exersize don't help and eating right which I do now doesn't help I will live at my weight happly, but will always push myself to lose more. I am healthy now that was my main reason and am happy with that, but I want more, and I see no problem with wanting more weight off. I am still overweight for my height, so for me I am happy but still want to lose. Hope this made since. Donna

donna.. it will be one year, march 8th since i had the gastro-bypass operation..i lost 152 lbs... the past couple of months have been slow in losing weight..i still have 26 lbs to go before my goal weight...i know in my heart im not making the best in choices when it comes to food intake lately and like you i haven't been excercising like i should...but summer is coming and i do love to swim and i will be doing alot of that....don't despair..just do some thinking of what may interest you...whether you have a dog that you could take for a walk...or children that would like to walk or ride a bike with you....dancing.....i myself need to get more motivated....all i know is i never felt better in my life since i lost this weight and pray that i don't ever regain any....best wishes to you..carole

Thank you..... I have done a lot of walking the last two days and the exersizes as I mentioned earlier in the post. I am doing the best I can... keep up with the protien, water, and exersize and if it will be it will happen. I also feel so happy I have come this far, and like most of us I want to go farther. thanks again for your post Donna

For all of you who want to talk about how your doing, will repost and call it by the days....... Now its day 4 Thanks

Hi Donna! The three keys to make/keep our tool working for us, even after we reach goal: 1.) Protein (at least 65 grams/daily) 2.) Liquids (non-carbonated, decaffeinated -- at least 48 oz. daily) 3.) Exercise (at least 30 minutes 5 days/wk) I made a vow to change my life after wls. I didn't pay all that money and go through a major surgery to go on another diet -- remember the first three letters of diet are d-i-e. We have to change our lives, the way we view food (eat to live, not live to eat). Sure, I miss a lot of the good stuff I used to eat and I'm not saying that I stick to my program 100% -- I'd be lying if I said I didn't. But I see myself in the mirror, look at my 'before' pictures, think about how much healthier I am than I was a year ago, and realize that nothing tastes as good as I feel! I also think of people like Amy Williams from Georgia who has come so far just 9 months after her wls and how much she is able to physically do -- shoot, she just started a support group in her area! She still has a ways to go with her weight loss, but I think of her when I need inspiration, and I tell myself, "If Amy can go to the YMCA to swim and do water aerobics, then I can surely get my butt up and walk for 30 minutes on my treadmill!" I hope this helps you and that you can get back on track with your program. Take care and let us know how you're doing! Hugs, -Marcie 281/176/150 BMI: 49.8/31.2

I'm right there with you all -- have been making poor food (and alcohol!) choices and have actually gained back 4 lbs, YIKES! I need to get back to the gym, but I find that I can come up with all kinds of excuses not to go! I love Merlot and really need to cut it out for awhile, I think. Had my one year anniversary 03/01, down 88 lbs. I really, really, REALLY want to get down to at least 160 lbs or thereabouts, as I've already purchased a size 16 swimsuit and am ready to hit the beach! Stuck at size 18W for three months now and I am feeling frustrated and bad about my lack of will power. How to get it back? I am open to suggestions. Thanks in advance, youse guys! Rita 299/211/145