Acceptance or giving up??

I have not lost any weight in 2 months. I am trying hard to break that streak and not beating myself up about it. When I had this surgery I was told that I should weigh 147 lbs but that this surgery was no guarantee that I would get there. It was hard for me to believe 10 months ago that with a stomach so small, I wouldn't reach that. Now after to coming to almost a complete stop in weight loss, I am allowing myself to accept that I may never get there- my husband doen't want me to loss any more of my breasts and that is where the majority of the weight came off from originally. I am so okay with being a size 14 instead of 10- is this acceptance of the new healthy me or is it giving up on what others say I should be?? I am comfortable, I am still trying to lose to 170 and feel like I could have a happy healthy life there. I can enjoy a little of the naughty foods and feel like I wouldn't constantly being denying myslef everything just to look a certain way. I think I just answered my own question- If I am happy, comfortable and healthy I am doing the right thing. I hope all can come to terms with a place they are happy with- I wish you all continued luck and success! Dawn

Congratulations, Dawn. I agree with your answer. Keep doing the right things and you will stay happy and healthy. Your body will continue readjusting and redistributing for a while. You may lose more, but who cares! Joy

HI DAWN. I AM ALSO STUGGLING WITH ACCEPTING WHERE I AM. I FINNALLY REALIZED THAT MY GOAL WAS TO GET HEALTHY AND HAVE MORE ENERGY, I NOW HAVE BOTH IN ABUNDANCE, IF I DON,T MAKE IT TO 125 WHERE I SECRETLY WANTED TO BE, IM OK WHERE I AM NOW. I WILL NOT LET WL BECOME AN OBSESSION LIKE EATING WAS. I JUST WANT TO ENJOY A NORMAL LIFE WHICH I CAN EASILY DO AT MY PRESENT WEIGHT. GOOD LUCK AND I TOO THINK YOU ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION. KAREN

Yep, Dawn - you answered your own question and I think you have a healthy outlook. I'm really struggling with losing weight now. Every pound is a fight to the death. I feel much, much better than I did last March, but I'm a fairly small person with a small frame so even being only 20 or 30 pounds over where I should be is still tough on my bod. I keep fighting to lose the weight, but I refuse to be ridiculous about it. I wanted to become normal, not maniacal. I watch the carbs and limit them, but I refuse to be a carb nazi. I imagine that I could exercize more, but I enjoy it now and don't want to pu**** into becoming a chore and something that I no longer look forward to doing. I've just come to accept that after years of abusing my body, it's getting even. The body is every bit as stubborn and iron-willed as my head. Yesterday, I had 2 ounces of turkey and an ounce of cheese for breakfast. Lunch was 1/2 cup of egg drop soup and a couple of ounces of chicken. Dinner was 3 bites of chewed and hurled chicken and then I had 5 bagel chips later. My efforts were rewarded with a 1.2 pound gain. I laughed. I think you've got the right attitude. Be happy with where you are and go with the flow. Hugs, Connie

Dawn, I agree with you....its acceptance that we have to move to.....if we let weight loss own our lives then we have just given up one obsession only to move to another, and how healthy is that? I refuse to become so obsessed with my weight loss and how much MORE I want to lose to not be able to enjoy life. I cant help but put a little thought into the fact that when wls patients become so obsessed with the weight that is when the other things in their lives (marriage, friend relationships, work) fall apart and they can become so discouraged and depressed Making it miserable for anyone to live with us, ourselves included. I celebrate each day how much better I feel, and look forward to tomorrow being just as good!!! Janelle

I am at the same place! At first I thought...oh boy, 160 here I come. The closer I get to my one year anniversary the more I think that that is not possible. I am still over 200 lbs (209). If I could just under 200 lb mark that would be amazing!! I decided that I would keep on doing what I am doing and pray that I make it to 195 or even 199. I am truly grateful for these 71 lbs that are not on my body anymore. I am satisfied with where I am at, my husband is thrilled! He even calls me skinny. I guess to him at 6'6 and 310 lbs I am a tiny person. Embrace the new you!! Rhonda -71

Hi There, We are fast approaching the "over the honeymoon" period of our surgury & will all go thru this kind of stress. Your body will catch up & start losing when you least expect it. The more you stress over it, the more you do thinkgs to stop the weight loss.(even though you don't think you are) this is coming from someone that is 5 years out & went from 500 lbs to 125 lbs. So we will all get where we want to be, Its just gets harder now. The old habits try & come back on us, so Think about what you are doing different than what you were doing in the beginning & go back to that. I started writing everything down that I eat & OMG what a difference in what I had to change. Good luck & I will bet that when you stop stressing over the weight loss, you will start losing again & get to where you want to be. Marilyn, the Bearlady

Hi Bearlady! Wassup? L&H Gayle