All alone.

We'll my wife of 10 years just left me. I guess that this was more than she could handle. I'd trade my 185 lbs for her to just come back. Just thought that I'd vent...

I'm so sorry to hear it. I wish I had some advice for you. All I can say is you'll never be alone... you have all of us! All my best to you Janine 320/180/145

Shannon, {{{{hugs}}}} I'm so sorry to hear this...My DH has been so insecure since my drastic weight loss that I have to deal regularly with his raw emotions. He's 13 years my senior and seems to think I'm looking for something younger and better looking. I'M NOT!! But it's difficult to make him understand...that just because I've changed on the outside...it doesn't change my character! Is it over-OVER or could you two try couples counseling??? I really think counseling should be a part of the post-op care!! (but that's my own soap box) I really hope tomorrow is a better day for you!! Remember we are here for you!!! Va

Shannon, I'm so sorry. I've heard over and over again that this surgery will make or break a marriage. A girlfriend of mine just gave up her singing job because her husband couldn't handle her being on stage and having men look at her. He quit his job, took the kids and left the state. She quit her job, sold the house and followed the kids. You can always come here to vent. We're here for you. Hugs, Connie

So sorry.....

Please don't say that... you could not have had surgery if your life was not endangered by your weight. This is going to be a difficult time but please try to keep your health in mind - if you're not healthy, you're no good to yourself, your wife, or whomever might be planned for your future. Don't surrender your life, which means your health, no matter what.

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through that pain. I agree that you should never give up your accomplishments. That is strength in your character and your health. Try to stand tall and be proud! Better things are on their way. It just doesn't feel like it right now. Unfortunately the only thing that heals is time. ((hugs)) We are here for you! Elizabeth M

Shannon, I'm so sorry for this pain that you're going through. I have heard many people say that this will make a good marriage better but will kill one that isn't so good. Two weeks after surgery, I asked my husband to leave---not surgery related but I began feeling much stronger and knew that I deserved better than the way he treated me. Is counseling an option? If you'd ever like to talk, my email is [email protected] are good things to have right now. There is also another MB that you might be interested in...if you mail me, I will gladly tell you where to find it. Best of luck. Try to be strong.

Shannon, I am so sorry to read your post. I will be praying for you and your wife, that she is able to sort through things and understand that your love for her is the same now as it was 185 pounds ago. I know if I was in your shoes I would feel like I had made a mistake ever having the surgery at all too, but remember whichever way your marriage is headed you still need to take care of you and do what is healthy for you, you cant control what she will or wont do, but you can control your destiny. Please let us know how you are doing, we want to support you all we can. Janelle

I'm so sorry. You are in my prayers... Joy