***UPDATE - I AM OVERWEIGHT***

I AM OVERWEIGHT My BMI is 27.5 I have lost a total of 106lbs. and only have 20lbs to go to be at goal. So I wanted to give an update. I was just wondering if any of you have experieced this...I am sure you have. There are so many people in my life that felt the need to tell me when I needed to lose weight. Now they fell like it is there job to tell me when I need to stop lossing weight. I get it more and more from people at church. Telling me that I look like I am going to dry up and blow away. Don't I think I have lost enough? I won't look very good if I lose anymore. Who do they think they are that they can say things like this. What makes them think that I am waiting for them to tell me when I should stop. Like I am waiting on their approval or disapproval to know what I should do. I don't understand people and the way they think. Anyway that is enough venting for now. Take care and God bless you all this Christmas season. Shannon The Irish Lassie 266/160/140

WOO HOO!!! Way to go Shannon! Congratulations! WIshing you continued success Elizabeth M

I have been told that I need to stop losing weight now over and over by people who mean well. I tell them I can't help it and my body will stop when it is ready. I am bony waist up, OK in my waist to thighs, and then lower thighs near my kness and calves are too big- calves are really big 18 inches. Sometimes I show someone my calves and say I will stop when I can get get my legs into boots. My mother-in-law told me I was prettier before i lost my last bit of weight. I am at a normal BMI and have 10-15 pounds to go to goal. If I don't lose anymore, that is OK too. But If I do, that's great. Mainly, my goal now is to be happy and healthy. with plastic surgery in the next year, i think another 10 will come off. People mean well, and go**** is a lot better than all the people telling me I needed to lose weight. I take the comments OK most of the time, but it is frustrating. I have told people I didn't want to hear it anymore. I sympathize with you. go for your goal, just do it in a healthy manner. RNY 3/17/04 293/151/140 (or maybe 136?) 5'8" down to size 6!!! exercise nut love my life!!!!

Hi Shannon: Happy holidays and congrats on your success. What makes people say those things to us is beyond me but for sure some of it is insecurity. Our new looks changes things for them. How can they feel superior to us if we look great? I don't think they do this conciously (sp?) but it is important not to listen to it. I have lost 97 pounds and do not have an ounce of fat anywhere. I have a neighbor who is my height who weighs 4 pounds less than I do and since I first got back to Fl at the beginning of this month she has told me not to lose anymore at least 25 times. AND --she is a neighbor NOT a personal friend. I guess my being fat made her feel good looking. Now I look great and she just looks skinny. Keep up the good work and have fun with it all. Louise 231/134 --5'8" sizes 20/6 BMI 21

Gosh...Louise really hit the nail on the head. I think that people who are used to us being heavy have a hard time adjusting to us being thin. At least one person a day tells me I've lost enough. I just smile and tell them my body will tell me when I've lost enough. In all honesty, it really doesn't bother me when people say that. My favorite is when people tell me I will get old looking if I don't stop losing weight now. All I know is that I feel great and would like to lose another 10-15 pounds. My doctor feels that will happen before my March 2 anniversary date. Louise, at 5'8" at 134 pounds, you must look like a model! I'm 5'6" and would like to weigh that. This last bit of weight is coming off sooooo slooooow...or so it seems. But I'll get there.