Dumb Question of the Day

Went to the doctor's office today to get my nasty back pain caused by my panni documented. I'm starting on the documentation trail for my tummy tuck and boob lift. All the nurse knows is that I'm there for back pain. I take off my jacket and she puts the blood pressure cuff over my upper arm. I'm so incredibly proud of the fact that they no longer have to go looking for the big thigh cuff anymore. I'm feeling pretty good about that when she pokes my hanging upper arm skin a couple of times and then grabs it and gives it a squeeze. "Are you planning to do something about this?", she asks. It took me a couple of beats to realize that she had actually asked me this and was looking at me and waiting for an answer. I said with a perfectly straight face, "Well yes.... I'm going to have it cut off and made into a book cover and a lamp shade." She couldn't get out of the room fast enough. Connie

Ah, Connie, you're killin' me here! Now you have me wondering...my hanging arm skin is so bad I wonder if I will still have to use the big cuff??? Your story reminds me of when I moved to NYC right out of college. I was 21 and lived in a women's residence, Webster Apts. for Women (right out of the Victorian era on 34th and 9th) -- had to interview to be accepted. During my interview, the manager, who was very prim and proper, asked why I was in the city. I told her I was pursuing a professional acting and singing career; she blinked a few times and then said, "Well, Maureen, I have to say I am quite concerned about your weight." I looked her square in the eye and said, "I know, I know...but I'm trying to gain it as fast as I can!" Her face paled and I was dismissed. WHY DO PEOPLE BELIEVE THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO INVADE YOUR PERSONAL WEIGHT SPACE, NO MATTER WHAT YOUR SIZE??? Have a great day all. Maureen

BRAVO CONNIE!!!!!!!!! Wonderful reply!! I'll never understand people and their attitudes toward us large folk. They act as if we are a lower form of life and not worthy of common courtesy. I hope that you shocked that person enough to make her think about what she said. Good job!! Mike

Connie, You surely come up with the best comebacks. Wish I was as fast as you on my feet in the spur of the moment. I keep thinking that people will change a little over time and finally realize how stupid they look and sound when they open their mouths and blurt out what they "think". It is one of the biggest lessons I am trying to teach my kids, compassion for others regardless of who or what they are. Janelle

OK - she's a moron and YOU are brillant at the comebacks. You are sharp as a tack!! How dare she poke your flab. That's YOUR flab and she doesn't need to call attention to it. Your response was right on! I would have thought of a witty comeback about 2 days later, so you are super sharp!! My motto is still: "Mean people suck" oh, and "Better living through Pharmecueticals". Perhaps Nurse Cratchett needs some happy pills! Take care, sweetie! -Wendy

Well, believe it or not, I've been asked about the hanging skin on my arms often enough that the answer about the book cover and lamp shade has become my standard reply. The first to ask was my own mother. Now isn't it sad that there are enough ignorant people asking the same question that I have to have a standard answer? I don't think that any of them are being intentionally mean, they just aren't thinking. If I remember and have the huevos, next time I'm just going to come right out and say, "Now why would you ask a question like that, knowing that it would hurt my feelings and make me feel bad?" I'm getting surley in my old age. lol Connie

What a great comeback! I'm going to go to the doctor hopefully some time between Christmas and New Year's to get my lower back evaluated, too, as well as my knees -- heck, I even started having problems with incontinence again of all things, too! I'm hoping I'll be able to convince our insurance company to cover a TT at the very least! Have a good day, all! -Marcie 281/191/150 BMI: 49.8/33.8

You make my day -heck I love to read your messages- I can't believe how dump I am- I really do have alot of back pain and I have been going to my PCP not realizing I should be having this pain documented with my surgeon-thanks -maybe I'll wake up now Your looking GREAT !!