Tired of hearing your getting so skinny you need to eat more grrrr

I am now 145 pounds wearing a size 11/12 jeans and medium or large tops.Back in March when I had surgery I was 266 pounds and wearing a size 22/24 jean and a 2xl or 3xl tops. I have now lost like what 121 pounds and I am feeling great but, I am so sick or people commenting on my weight. My mother just the other day told me that I need to start eatting more good gawd like she sould talk she is 5 foot 3 and 120 pounds. I am still the same person inside I just got alittle deflated hehehe. If any of you have had this problem what advice could you give to me on what to say to the next person that says sheesh your getting way to thin . Like I ever thought I would ever hear that in my life time. Oh yeah will try to post some before and after photos if I ever figure out how I do have photos in my yahoo briefcase if anyone wants the link just message me . ND_SweetHeart

I am hearing that I need to stop losing weight from my mother and mother-in-law. I started at 293 and am down to 163. My goal is 140. I have lost from the top down- my face, shoulders, neck, back, waist are all very thin. But my thighs are still too big though they have slimmed down a whole lot. My calves are still way too large- they are too large for any boots still. When I can wear boots I will think about stopping. When people tell me not to lose any more I show them my calves or I just smile and ignore them. My face is quite thin, but I think once I reach my goal things will settle out. Don't let people get to you- do what you need to do, be healthy. Don't be obsessive though. Congratulations on your weight loss.

I started at 312, am now 207, 5'10" tall... usually I say, "Don't MAKE me pull my shirt up!!" Mostly I remember how glad I am to have this problem replacing the old problem of people telling me how much I've gained (like I had no idea what I was carrying around everywhere, everyday!). In that conteext, I don't really get bugged at all...!

Patricia, First, congratulations on doing so well. I started at 266 and am currently at 171. I'm wearing 10s and 12s bottoms and large or xl tops. On to your topic: I had a girlfriend who asked me what size jeans I was wearing, and she basically said, "WOW! *I* could wear those jeans. You can stop losing weight now." As in, I can stop now (that it looks like I could become thinner than she is.) We are getting "too thin" for people's comfort zones. I think in a lot of peoples' minds, even subconsciously, we didn't "work" for it, and don't deserve to be skinnier than them. They think it's great that we lost weight and are healthier, but if it looks like we're going to "pass" them, then it is time for us to eat more, because it's not fair that we get thinner than they are. (Hey I'll admit it - I was one of them. A girlfriend at work had the surgery two years ago, and when she lapped me, I was upset by it. But she became one of my biggest supporters for surgery and obviously my viewpoint has changed.) Just disregard them - they don't understand and they may never understand. Try to focus on their good points as friends and family members and disregard their more ignorant comments. Of course this doesn't apply to the small percentage of us that may actually go overboard - there may be some Marchers approaching true medical underweight, which is no good either. Jen

The first person to tell me that was my regular doctor. So I laughed and said..how do I stop. I have heard it more often in recent weeks. and now I say, I am not trying to loose weight. I have stabled between 170 and 175. Which is just fine with me. If I have the TT I will be in 10-12 clothes. But my dr wants me to wait till it has been a year.

Should I be offended? People are still commenting on my weight loss, in the form of complements and questions, but NO ONE has suggested that I stop losing. I'm amazed to be down to a size 8 at about 140. I am not really purposely losing at this point, but still am slowly dropping a bit. I'm happy if I lose or if I don't and tend to not remember to get on the scales except for fear of regaining. Apparently my friends are not insecure about their own weights! They seem genuinely happy for me. Joy

I hear it all the time!!! And yes it gets me so fustrated sometimes... I started at 265 I'm now down to 143 (haven't weighed in almost 2 weeks) and I'm 5'7. I wear size 4-6. I'm happy where I am. If I lost a couple more pounds that would be fine with me but If i don't then thats also fine with me. People don't understand...I'm always like "Hello, I couldn't eat more if I wanted too and I'm not trying to lose anymore" After that they usually shut up. Just keep your head up, most of the people saying these things are probably jealous...Be proud! Kelley 265/143@goal and beyond

Scoot over on that bench! UGH! I think in my situation most of the people are having Jealous ISSUES themselves, I teach and work with mostly women who are overweight with few exceptions. I have heard from EVERYONE except the thin ones, "OH you shouldn't loose anymore weight you will be TOO thin...blah blah blah..." I just say well "my weight loss is progressive and I will loose what my body wants me to loose" and walk away. I am in the size I had initially used as my goal but I want to get into the healthy weight range for my height so I have some more to go! One of my vary good friends is 9months pregnant and her goal is to come back to school thinner than I will be after she has this baby. I KNOW she is having issues with jealousy, it hurts my feelings but they have to get over it! My weight loss had nothing to do with them and EVERYTHING to do with me and I am thrilled! They can't take that away even if they want to be witchy women! LOL Nic 291/178/145

I haven't heard the too thin comments yet as it hasn't happened for me yet, but I have made a point of telling everyone at work that I intend on going 20 lbs below my goal so when I have that 20 lb rebound I'll be normal. That way when they start thinking that way, they will realize that I'll likely gain some back anyway. I don't know if I will ever make it to my goal of 150, but I'd like to. If I can, I will go to 130, too, because I figure I will gain some back and I'd at least like to have a little buffer room. But 130 at 5'7" does not an anorexic make. Maybe you should tell everyone that you'll likely rebound (even if you won't) some of that weight. Statistically we will, and maybe they will back off when they hear that. Dina