DH Hasnt Noticed?!
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I was excited one day because I started loosing weight again after my little 2 week plateau and shared my excitement with my husband. I explained how I was proud of myself that I was going to the gym everyday and that I'm loosing again and he was happy for me and said yes that it was really nice and such. WELL then I asked him how much of a difference he could tell and do you know what he said??? He said... I cant really tell a difference!!! I was sooo upset! 
I said I lost 100 pounds and you cant tell a difference??? He said that he could tell a little but that he sees me everyday and its hard to notice when you see someone everyday. I said well I get compliments at work alot and they see me everyday! And he said I just cant tell... I mean he says that then he will tell me what he does see... like my sides are smaller or my butt is smaller and things like that but overall he cant tell! I was so hurt and felt so defeated. I know he didnt mean for me to feel that way but... darn can that be true that because he sees me everyday he doesnt notice that much? Just curious to what your opinions are.
Elizabeth M 
I said I lost 100 pounds and you cant tell a difference??? He said that he could tell a little but that he sees me everyday and its hard to notice when you see someone everyday. I said well I get compliments at work alot and they see me everyday! And he said I just cant tell... I mean he says that then he will tell me what he does see... like my sides are smaller or my butt is smaller and things like that but overall he cant tell! I was so hurt and felt so defeated. I know he didnt mean for me to feel that way but... darn can that be true that because he sees me everyday he doesnt notice that much? Just curious to what your opinions are.
Elizabeth M 
Men.
Enough said about that subject.
You have done wonderfully. 100 is nothing to sneeze at! Take a look at what weighs 100 pounds. My 25 year old daugther, My neighbors german sherperd, the little 13 year old boy 3 houses down, combined my washer & dryer, the pig at this past summers block party pig roast those things weigh 100 pounds. I've only lost 86 pounds since surgery march 31 and if I didn't lose anymore I'd be happy but I know more is gonna happen. Be happy with you. dont worry if he doesn't notice YOU do and all of your co-workers do to! when you lose the last of it if he still doesn't notice get him some glasses and you a bright new flashy red dress with some pretty heels all in small sizes! Congratulations on your fantastic weight loss!! Good luck & God Bless, pam
We must share the same DH!!!! He says the same exact thing that well i can't tell but you are smaller, I see you everyday. I still haven't figured out how to go about this with him. I've told him that it hurt me that he hasn't acknowledged my weight loss and all that. I'm coming to the conclusion that he my SO is trying to metally deal with my change while I'm more focused on my physical change. But hey since we are in the same boat, if you find anything that works in the situation let me know.
Elizabeth,
I hadn't seen my son in several months and was pretty miffed when he didn't comment on my weight loss. When I cornered him on it, he said, "Mom, you're beautiful. You're beautiful when you're fat and you're beautiful when you're skinny. I just love you and never paid attention to your weight. Well except for when I was 10 and said your arms reminded me of a water bed." I didn't know whether to slug him or kiss him.
Elizabeth, maybe your husband just loves you so much that the weight really is no big deal. Maybe he really doesn't notice.
Connie
That is exactly what I was gonna say! He may not see you as fat or thin just beautiful. Some people don't pay attention to how others look as much as who they are. This is a rare person. Maybe you were luck enough to find one. My husband says he can see a difference, but he likes big girls and is having to adjust to the thinner me. Says he loves me either way.
Hi! Elizabeth,
I have to say that my husband doesn't ever comment on my weight loss and probably doesn't notice so much because he sees me everyday. I don't think it is intentional but I am also sometimes hurt by the lack of enthusiasm for me. The only time I really see my husband taking notice is when I wear something new that I would never have worn 76 lbs ago. I mean form fitting things, skirts a little shorter and hip hugger jeans. They show a shape we didn't use to have. Unfortunatley he does notice that my breasts have shrunk and comments on those regularly!?!? I love him regardless and look forward to the day when he looks and me and all he can say is- WOW!
Good luck to you, Dawn
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