Disgusted with myself

When did I become so shallow? I was walking in the mall yesterday and everywhere I looked there were overweight people... I mean as big as my highest weight and maybe even larger. And I felt sorry for them. I wanted to go up to them and shake them and tell them about "my story" and point them in the right direction. What the heck is wrong with me??? I feel so ashamed. My dad constantly gives me the "stop smoking speech" because he stopped years ago, how so disgusting the habit is, turns up his nose every time I walk into a room after smoking, blah, blah. I dont want to turn into that... a preacher for WLS... I can't imagine... but I see myself doing it! How has this happened? Does anyone else have these feelings? Can I just walk through the mall and mind my own business? Who am I to judge and why am I doing it now? Someone bring me back into reality! ~Janine

I feel myself doing the same thing i just want to scream it out.

Hi, I do not post on here much, anymore; but I do not think you have become shallow. The fact of the matter is that we know what they are going through.I was taking my niece skating not too long ago and while I was sitting at the booth I saw this girl who was around 370 lbs (where I used to be) and she was standing up the whole time at the rink. I couldn't help but feel sorry for her because I knew WHY she was standing up. She couldn't fit into the booth. There I was comfortably sitting in the booth and she couldn't. It made me feel so horrible for her because I know it must have hurt her and it made me also realize how far I have come. SHALLOW? I think not...the fact of the matter is you have a heart and you care what they are going through. Bethany

i'm glad to know that i am not the only one who was feeling this way. everytime i see someone who is as big as i was i feel so sorry for them, cuz i have been there and know what it's like.

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Hi. I feel the same. It's not because your shallow I think it's because you care. I don't want to talk anyone into have WLS but I would like them to know they have choices. I tell people my story if they want to hear. Take care.

I dont feel like I am small enough yet that anyone would listen to me - I am still a size 18-20 and still see myself as very much a fat person, so I guess I am not to that point yet. I dont feel like I could preach even if I wanted to, because it would be like hearing a sermon from a preacher with his mistress. -Sherrie

I don't think it's because you're shallow nor do I think it is because you care so much. I think, it is just a defense mechanism working to keep you healthy and doing what you should. Like your Dad and others who gave up a bad habit, it is a way to keep yourself motivated and to prevent yourself from slipping backwards. That is just MHO. Louise

Thanks everyone- I had no idea why I was feeling this way and alot of your answers make perfect sense. Glad to see I'm not the only one with these types of feelings ~Janine