Pressure to look skinnier
Do any other Marchers have this?
I feel this (self-imposed) pressure, whenever I'm going to get together with friends that don't see me every day, to look NOTICEABLY skinnier... How wierd is that? Sometimes the urge is strong and sometimes not too bad, but why in the world would I feel it at all? It's almost like some kind of performance anxiety.. I feel nervous to see them if I don't think I look thinner than the last time I saw them...
I'll spend 20 minutes trying different outfits, trying to determine which is the most slimming, slimming enough to get them to comment on my weight loss.
Any thoughts?
Hi Jennifer,
Yes...yes...I know what you are feeling. Infact today I was standing in my closet trying to find a pair of pants that would make me look thinner so that when I go to work people could notice. I have my days when I want it to show and days when I am just like "whatever". I'll tell you sometimes I even get people come up to me and tell me "stop losing weight, you look skinny already" and I'll tell them "Oh no I have about another 30-40 pounds to go and they'll look at me like I am crazy!!!!!
Edna
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yes i know the same feeling. for me i sometimes feel that people except me to be skinnier just because of the fact that i had wls and they think that it takes over night to be at goal. some people that i know think i took the easy way out and that i should be done losing already. they dont know how hard it really is, and that it does take time. i have about 80 pounds to go, but not bad since i already lost 104. 
...You know, for years we have all been noticed - a lot - for how "FAT" we were, even to the point of having to endure typically rude coments from well-meaning friends and strangers, alike - things like; "what pretty faces" we have, or how "young we are and have so much to live for."
It is no wonder we all crave to hear some positive feedback from those who were always so ready and willing to dish out the negative.
Unless they have gone through this surgery themselves, nobody knows how hard it is for us--the pressure to keep our heads held high, to keep brave faces on, to constantly try to prove them wrong about our having had this surgery.
This is absolutely NOT the easy way out. Every time I get a call from my sister asking how I am feeling, and whether or not I am losing all my hair (I am) now or not, I want to scream that I am fine. The truth is that some days I don't feel fine. Some days I am scared-when I see all the hair on the sink counter. Some days I do NOT feel energetic. It can really be exhausting to always be UP and FINE and CHEERFUL.
So I think it is very normal to spend some extra time looking for just the right wardrobe for work, or vacation, or visiting with friends. It helps us justify the decision to have the WLS surgery.
I had been retired from the US Army for 18 years, and after WLS I re-entered the workforce. I spend extra time choosing what I will wear, I wear make-up again, I have my hair cut regularly now. I am no longer retired from life. I have lost 112 pounds since March 25th. Many of my family members have not seen me other than snapshots, but still they are worried about how I am adjusting. Thank heaven for my husband--he is a Prince--he knows just the right thing to say everyday (even before the WLS).
I think you are all doing great!! I am proud of you all. Hang in there and enjoy being losers. 
Sharon
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