Food Police Grrrrrr

I was sitting at my desk eating lunch when another employee came into my office and started scolding me for eating too much. Scuze me? Two slices of deli turkey, a tablespoon of fat free cream cheese and 2 wheat crackers is too much? At first I thought he was kidding, but he wasn't. I was so amazed at how many emotions this brought forward. Instead of telling him to bugger off, I found myself defending what I was eating. After he left, I looked up what I was eating on fitday.com and then went to tell him the nutritional composition of what I was eating. Why in the world would I feel like I have to defend eating 2 ounces of turkey, a couple of crackers and fat free cream cheese? I don't know if I'm more upset with me or him. It's 12 hours later and I'm still thinking about it. Connie

My Mom's done this same sort of thing. She'll find out what I ate or am planning to eat for dinner or something and start telling me that I should watch it cause I can undo the surgery and be right back where I started...Thanks for the support Mom....I mean I know that she is just concerned, but it's not like she's done any research or anything..she is just going by things she has heard or what she expects it to be like, she doesn't have any facts. I am the one whose done this and I have researched the heck out of it and am completely following the nutritionists guidlines. Today after an appointment, I came in with a sonic drink cup and she looked inside to see what was in it (No I didn't cheat, it had ice tea with sweetener) I mean, I can get thirsty and am allowed to have something to drink besides water aren't I??? Why is it that people feel they have a right to monitor our food intake and comment on it now that we have had surgery?? What do they think gives them the right to do this??? I feel your frustration. Whitney

Are we sisters? Does my mom have another child she hasnt told me about? I think your mom and my mom must be brain twins! - Sherrie

If that was me I would have jsut looked at him and giave himthe finger, and you kn ow which one. YOu do what you want. Even if it was to much which it definately was ont, it is your decision on what you want to eat and no one elses.

Oh Connie - I would be so pissed! I am not open to being critiqued over my food choices, so I might have a problem with it if people start questioning me. Of course, your knee jerk reaction was probably normal and would probably be my initial reaction....to get defensive, but still - the nerve! I might be inclined to tell the food cop that if I ate too much he'd be the first to know as I'd make a b-line to his desk to puke on his shoes!!! Dina

HOLY COW! The nerve of some people! Connie, you don't strike me as the shy type, why didn't you tell him to mind his own freakin' business? Was it HIM who went through all the research, trouble, and pain of surgery to watch out for your health? I think you can figure out what to eat without his help. Can I slap him? Can I please? Let me just say, I trust myself, and my husband to watch what I eat. Why my husband? Because he has a better memory than I do and he will remind me what made me queasy in the past. He will remind me the limits of my pounch when I forget. Guess what? He LIVES with me and was there for every minute of my pre-op, surgery, and recovery. HE is invested. Everyone else can take a flying leap. Can you tell I am P.O.ed? Grrr. Lee 266/227/137 (Praying for Rob.)

Connie you are a sweet person I can tell. I am that way to polite to really tell someone what I want to say at the time. When I get home I think of all kind of things I could of said and wished I would of said. This man is not a very smart person and he is far from being a gentalman. I would copy these post and put them on his desk. Then he will get the drift. Sarah T

Hi everyone. I'm not sure if I have posted on here or not, but I had surgery on March 17th. Six weeks post op today. Connie, I think I would have to ask this guy what he had or is having for lunch or what he had the day before. I would bet there is a good chance that its going to be a whole lot more than what you had! Then, if you feel so inclined let him know just how unhealthy his eating was/is. I tend to speak my mind, he's lucky he didn't say that to me!

What's HIS problem. It's certainly not your problem. It's just completely inappropriate what he did. Is he a friend who is scared for you or just someone with his own issues who is projecting on to you -- that will dictate how you deal with him, I suppose. I've read all your messages over the weeks. You know what you're doing. I wish I had as complete a grasp of the math of it all as you do! Gano

hahahhahaha! Dina that was funny...puke on his shoes hee hee! What a jerk he was happy girl! Dont you fret about it what a dumba**!!! Its so true about the defensive part though. Check this out... When I go down to get lunch I notice when I am walking back to my desk I am thinking to myself (does this look like I am eating alot??) I have a bag of baked lays (that lasts me the whole day of course) and a teeenie tiny salad and I am SO self conscious about what I am holding in my hand and what people think ... for instance are they like "oh my gosh she had surgery and look at how she is eating!" Im sure its my paranoid head but I totally understand the defensiveness. My husband told me the other night that he had the feeling I was still eating more than him! I was like SAY WHAT!!! and instant defensive mode I was just rambling on and on... he was like OK OK I just see you... Im like yeah I eat like a thumbs lenght of food every so often! Its most likely from years of feeling guilty about everything that goes in our mouths. That is something that will take awhile to get over. Its been soooo long since I felt "normal" about food. This is going to be quite a journey! You hang in there and dont worry about that creep! Best Wishes! Elizabeth M -44