Comfort needed & I lost my security blanket
I'm 3 1/2 weeks post op, a week ago I had to call 911 for my father-in-law. He had felt like he had the flu over the weekend, monday he was in resp distress, after several days in the hosp he has continued to decline, they diagnosed lung cancer, he's been on a vent since wednesday. Last night they told us they wanted to pull the plug. It has been so hard, this was a man that has always been the picture of health, worked full time right up till friday, he hadn't been been sick a day in over 30 yrs.....I've got to be the strong one now for DH and my 8 yo son (he and grandpa have been inseparable, they live next door), as well as for my mother-in-law (they have been together since they were teens). The stress is at an unbelievable level....and all I could think about last night was food, until this started I was doing really well, but it really has brought home how much I use food as a security blanket for comfort...it's good in a way the surgery is over or I'm sure I'd be pushing 400 lbs.
Rachel
Dearest Rachel, I am so sorry for your loss and I will think good and comforting thoughts for you and your family. Please, please take care of yourself during this time of grief. You must not give in to the voice in your head that tells you to eat for emotional comfort. You will hurt yourself if you do, perhaps seriously damaging your pouch and putting your health in jeapardy. You can be there for your husband and your son, as well as be there for YOURSELF. Just go through the basics of following the protocal -- your water and your protein. A quiet walk will help ease your mind as well as heal your body. God calls us home for a reason. Your father-in-law is needed in heaven now. Trust that he is going to a better place. God bless and be well, Maureen
Rachel, God be with you through this time. I lost my dad about 10 years ago it was hard for me but now I can even hear him at times in my heart talking to me it is not real talk but just the words he used to say it does get easier. Talk about the things you did as a child and who he was it does help to talk. May God bless you and your family... Sarah T
I am so sorry. I am going though a similar time with my mother. It is so hard to turn loose. And I understand about the comfort food need. (I grazed on cashews the other day--boy was I sick!) When the weather is good try to get outside and walk. It helps with the stress. Somehow we all have to learn new coping mechanisms. Might as well do it now.
I hope that you and your family are able to find comfort in your memories.
Joy
Rachel, I am so sorry for the loss your family is going thru, and I think we can all relate to feeling that our "security blanket" is gone......but now you have us, and we are here for you!!! All the good advice and love people have given hopefully will help and just remember we REALLY are here for you!!! I will say some extra prayers for your whole family and some just for you, to help you get thru this. Trish
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