The mummy is alive
Yes, I'm alive and kicking. Sorry I haven't been around much but I'm in a bit of a rough spot now. I think most of you know that my 85 year old mother-in-law lives with us. Well, she doesn't sleep. And when I say she doesn't sleep I mean she is up between 25-30 times a night. And since she cannot move other then to get herself half way out of bed, she calls for help to get back in bed. That being said, we have hired help for four nights a week and my wife and I cover the other three. Well, I function better on no sleep, so I take two nights and my wife takes one. On top of that, she can't be left alone, so we always have to make sure that if one of the caregivers isn't there then one of us is there. Plus, I have three children who are like normal kids and are active. We all have our crosses to bare, mine is no worse then others. I just wanted to explain why I haven't been around.
I'll try to come by more often. Feel free to write to me, send naughty photos, etc.
Yo Dawg;
Good to hear from you! My wife and I (mostly my wife due to scheduling) are dealing with moving her parents from their house to an apartment in a retirement center. It's stressful, but nothing like what you are dealing with. As one who is sleep deprived on a near constant basis, I know where you are coming from. Please be careful not to get so behind on your sleep that it drags your health down. That won't help anyone. I try to take an occasional day for myself and just sleep the clock around to try and re-charge the batteries. Good luck and stay in touch.
Mike
My mother lives with my single sister and has for many years. She is 86 and highly functioning. In fact it wasn' tuntil the past 2 weeks that she gave up her dirivers liscense. She was a good driver just not as good and it scared her so it was a good thing.
Unfortuantely she is now depressed. never having been a warm fuzzy person and mostly was someone who wanted alot of attention its worse. my sister always has even 50 years ago catered to mom. we joke about it but now she has a very spoiled 86 year old toddler who wants her own way when she wants it.
my sister is now going to be 60 in the next few weeks and she doesn't have as much energy as before. don't get me wrong i do not think of her as old but lets face it none of us who ha**** our 50's has the energy that we had when we were in our 20's. if you add to it that you are not getting the sleep you need becasue of someone who is wide awake and wants or needs attention for one reason or another and you are literly pooped. i do not know how my sister does it.
They live 3 states away. I always feel guilty that I am not closer to help out. my sister is a saint and handles it all. as mom gets older it gets worse. 1am 2am 3am visits to the emergency room to calm my mothers fears that she is sick. she has some health issues that need attention and her anxiety kicks in. my sister the saint does not complain and takes her. i worry as much for my sister as i do for my mother. and again feel guilty becasue i am 3 states away.
i dont 'have the money to pay for help. i can't go up north every weekend. i do go up there now once a month and take vacation and go up north to give my sister a break when she can go on vacation. i also do pay for an emergency responce necklace so that during the daytime when mom is at home if she should fall she can press that little button for help. that does take away some of the guilt and gives my sister some what of less worries plus lets her feel better about going to different things at night. it makes mom feel better too.
so dog you and your family along with my sister are saints.
good luck and god bless.
HI Ken glad to see your post & very sorry you are dealing with so much with family.
Hey just make sure the no sleep does not interfere with your work. We don't need to
lose a cop friend to sleep deprived work related issues. Be safe my Friend & come back
to your home (here) when you can. AZ lost a good cop the other day to a Motocycle
accident. We sure don't want to lose you too!! Take Care
Marilyn, the Bearlady 
Dawg,
Glad to see you and sorry about the mother-in-law situation. Have you talked to your MIL's doctor about giving her something to help her sleep through the night? I don't know if you are already in communication with them or not, but every state has a Federally funded organization to assist with elder care situations. They are usually run by the state department of human services. If you need help finding that agency in your state, let me know and I'll find them for you. My team builds the software for the Arizona elder services groups.
Connie
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