just some blah blah's

good morning everyone! just checking in to do my early morning yak. its been a crazy few weeks. my son's wedding is done. their even back from the honeymoon! my daughter has a 2nd interview in NH so it means her moving out of CT to be with her financee is gonna happen within the next couple of months. I'm heart broken but keeping a happy face on for her. gotta be supportive. this is what they are suppose to do. grow up and have their own life. forget about poor old mommy! now this old mommy has to figure out what she wants to do with the rest of her life. yikes its never easy is it? I'm still struggling with those extra pounds like the rest of all of us are. that is comforting in a way knowing that i'm "normal" HA! Hey the BMI scale even says I'm normal. My doctor says I'm normal. Why do I not feel normal? now the hard thing...as alot of you know i struggled with a break up from my financee. Its been a few months now and i'm doing ok. I got a card from him last night. i still love him but know that this is for the best. I just do not know what to do about the card. I feel there is a need to respond to it. He's hurting just like I am. I want to do what is best but do not want to give him flash hopes that we will get back together. So until I figure that all out I'm at a loss. Geesh Does this stuff ever get better? I thought once I grew up and was an adult that I woudln't have to think about this kind of stuff. My 86 year old mother is in a depression. After many many many years of driving she has turned in her liscense. It was a hard decision that she made helped along by the state of NH (thank you NH that we didn't have to take it from her) she failed her test she could have gone back to retest but felt that it was time to give up the liscense. Along with giving that up is now the depression that is understandable. she has lost her independance. She goes back to bed in the morning now rather than staying up and going about her day. She didnt' go out to the store every day before but at least 2 times a week would go to walmart with a friend. or out to lunch. She was the last of her friends who could drive. Now the rest of them are all in this depression together. They call each other daily to cry. Its so incrediably sad. Here I am in CT 3 & 1/2 hours away and can't do anything other than to call her. I visit as much as I can. My poor sister is a saint. Mom lives with her. They would like me to move up north in the same town but my job, condo, sons, life are here. what to do? what to do? I guess I'm in the same boat as alot of people my age. 53 with an aging parent who lives far away, kids who have gone and grown up and are moving far away, and a relationship that ended. At least I am healthier now with my weight! Now to work on my mental health! It will be what it will be. Please dont think that my life is one big sadness though it does sound that way right nwo. I have alot ot be thankful for. God has given me healthy children who love me, a good job, being able to work so that I can afford a nice home and take care of my little pets. I'm jsut complainig righ tnow cause I need to vent. Things will get better I do know this. Thank you so much if your still reading! I promise that soon I will be back to my "normal" self! Good luck and god bless. Pammy

Pammy , God bless you. Just think in your blessing which are more than the sad things. Just as you said good things around you. of the card just let go few days more and than think about it. Recieve a big hug ,keep up and take care

Your "count your blessings" approach is inspiring. I think at every point in our lives we could make a huge list of problems/ disappointments / challenges, and an equally long list of blessings / opportunities / hopes. It is the list we choose to focus on that determines our path. As for the card, you must do what will give you the most peace. You may do nothing, or you may respond, but be sure you are honest and kind. It is not kind to give false hope. Perhaps something along the lines of "Thank you for the card. I also have treasured memories of our time together. I'm sorry that it did not work out, and wish you only the best in the future." Good luck--most of all--do not let yourself be guilted into a relationship that is not good for you! Hang in there! Joy