Losing too fast
I know this seems like a strange topic, but it has been effecting me for the last couple of days. The problem for me seems to be that my mind is not ready to lose the weight. The weight seems to be slipping off of me, but in a way I'm freaking out about it like if my security blanket is leaving me. I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this feeling.
-Beth
-30lbs.
I think a lot of us hide behind the weight. We are invisible. As we lose, people will start responding to us differently. That can be frightening, but once we adjust it will be better. Your reaction is normal, but you may be having it a bit earlier than some of us will. It may help to try to figure out what it making the loss seem threatening, and consciously choose the benefits of the loss. But it will take time for our minds to catch up to our bodies.
Joy
Eve N.
on 3/28/04 12:14 pm
on 3/28/04 12:14 pm
Hi Beth,
Have you read Carnie Wilson's books? She talks a lot about this. She discusses the therapy she had too, specifically on this subject. Her identity was really wrapped up in being "the fat, vivacious girl" and she said it felt really scary sometimes without those layers of protection.
I think this is a common issue. Louise Hay talks in her books about how overweight is a need for protection. It's also a way to take ourselves out of the mix - out of the realm of being sexually harassed or ogled; we don't have to worry about saying no to anyone or hurting anyone's feelings. It's also an excuse that's always there when things don't go like we planned or someone doesn't ask us out, we don't get the job, or it's a reason not to go for our dreams.
I suggest you keep a journal if you can't talk to a professional about your feelings. It may be something you can resolve by yourself, but if it's very serious it could cause problems for you later on. You don't want to sabatoge yourself later on because of fears.
Best of luck!
-Eve
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