Kym H. Are You Feeling Better?

Hi Kym, just checking in on you. I have been troubled by your earlier post, imagining you as described, and feel worried and sad for you. In re-reading my first response to you, I sounded a bit harsh and for that I'm sorry. We are all here to support one another, no matter the issue. If I wrote anything that sounded mean or uncaring it was out of total concern for you. This first month post-op is the most critical. What you do for yourself in your own recovery will determine how things ultimately will end up for you. If you don't do the work (following your doctor's eating/drinking orders, getting up and moving regularly), you could cause yourself serious harm and setbacks. That's all I meant to say. I truly hope you are feeling better and are taking control of your own well-being. Everything starts with the head, my friend. What we think is our one and true reality. Use your mind to imagine the wonderful new way of living that is just around the corner for you! Take care of yourself. God bless, Maureen

hi. i didn't think your post was mean or harsh at all. i'm doing everything that i'm supposed to be doing - walking, eating what i'm supposed to, and following everything to a "t". i'm just still so sore - too sore to get out and do much of anything. and, i know a lot of my problems are in my head right now - i'm mad about everything and crying everytime i turn around. i guess i'm just surprised that after all the research that i did there's still so much that i wasn't prepared for. i feel like i've done something horrible to myself - something completely irreparable. in a way i feel like i've woken up from a major drinking binge and found a huge tattoo on my forehead. i don't know. i'm just not happy. i go from apathetic to really depressed - hell, i don't even care that i've lost so much weight... what's wrong with that picture??? ... it's got to get better (at least that's what everyone is trying to tell me). anyway, sorry for the rant... and thanks for caring. kym

Kym, I truly believe things will get better for you. It sounds like, with the exception or your soreness, that most of this stuff is in your head. Do your best to start walking. Exercise is one of the best remedies for depression yet I know when one is depressed it's difficult to get motivated. You really have an opportunity to start to turn things positive for yourself. In time, you will be able to eat all kinds of foods again but you do need to find another source for dealing with your head. Please try and walk daily. It's so important for both your mental and physical recovery. There's no problem with whining here. I'm having my surgery next week and may be the biggest baby out here. I also will probably need the biggest swift kick in the ass and that's okay. You have an opportunity now for a much better life. Please don't loose sight of that hon. Shalom for now, Caboose T-4

Kym - I'm going to email you in a second. If you don't mind emailing me back, I'd appreciate it! Dina

All of us, in one way or another, are discovering the difference between reading up on something and experiencing it! I wish that someone had talked about how trashed our hormones are though and could give some estimate of how long it takes to get back to some sort of balance... Joy

Kym... someone posted (I think VA or Sally) that all of our glorious fat cells have a bit of estorgen in them too so when the fat cells give up the goods (or is that goos) then we are also being flooded with estrogen. Flood a "normal" (what is "normal" anyway?) woman with estrogen and you get a teary eyed mean B**** in the best of situations.... now add that to us. We are different. We have made literally life altering decisions and that alone makes each of our situations extreamly unique. The old addage of "This too shall pass" may seem like bull pucky right now but well if it doesn't maybe you might want to find some one to talk to. A caring friend or family member, someone who has had the surgery, a support group or even yes, the dreaded Shrink! Oh yeah, and us here on the board. Sounds to me as if you are watching your physical health now it's time to be a bit more selfish and take care of your mental health too. You are a part of an awesome elite group. Stand tall and take time to take for yourself. If you don't take time for you now there will be a major problem later because there won't be enough of you to go around! I wish you love and hugs and take care. Feel free to email! Gayle Queen of Yarn Balls

HI GAYLE, GLAD YOUR DOING WELL! HUGZ MARY