Newbe! My surgery is scheduled for March 29th.

I'm a newbe to the sight (sort of). I've been on here a lot just doing a lot of reading and I have to say that this site is great. All the encouragement given and support. I am petrified about surgery. Now I have had surgery before and have never been this scared. I think it's because this one holds so many more risks during and after surgery. My support group is in place pretty much. I am just fearful that I will leave my daughter without a mother if something goes wrong. I wish everyone out there my best wishes on their journey.

Welcome!! This procedure is not considered life threatening. Your daughter will end up with less of a mommy to love but a healthier one. Congrats on your decision to take the leap. We look forward to sharing with you.

Welcome Rosemary!!! Congrats on your date and on becoming a Marcher and even better a NINER!!!! (anyone on a 9 surgery date.. 9/19/29 ) We'll help ya thru the scary parts.. just come on in and talk to us!!!! OH and being scared is part of the deal Sinseerlee, Kathy Offishal Marchers Cheerleader Captain Flatulence Monitor Angel to the Queen "It's time to throw down the pom poms and get into the game!"

Thank you Tamera & Kathy for your support. It is so nice when strangers can come together and give each other confort.

Rosemary, Isaish 41:13 says... For I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee. Know this that some will say that fear is a normal thing...and for the most part it is. However, the spirit of fear is not of the Lord. It is of the devil...and well if it is coming from him you know that he is a liar and the father of it. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and love, and of a sound mind. 2Timothy 1:7 I will be in prayer for you and your daughter. I know that just like for me the Lord has prepared a path for you long before you even knew that there was a path. If you need anything don't hesitate to ask. & Shannon The Irish Lassie 3/17/04

Thank you Shannon for those wonderful words and for your prayers. God Bless you!

Hey Rosemary, Welcome to the Marchers and congratulations on your surgery date. Stay positive. Think about how you are going to feel once you are a loser. Think about your daughter afterwards, all the things you two are going to be able to do together, how happy you both are going to be. You are going to be just fine. Your surgery is gonna go great. Remember, "God brought you to this, He will bring you through it." Please know that all of us Marchers are here for you when ever you need us! We are all doing this TOGETHER. Kelley Offishal Birthday Baroness & Offishal Guardian of the Chair 7 days and a wake up

Thank you Kelley for your support. I also want to wish everyone the best with their surgeries and offer the same support to all of you.

Rosemary, First of all, welcome to the Marchers! You have time to mentally prepare for your surgery. I've found that fear doesn't help me at all. My impression is that most people at this website came to the realization that they have far more to fear in remaining morbidly obese than in the surgery. I'm sure, in your heart, you know that's the case for you too. Fear is just a thought. It only has power if you give it power. Try not to pitch a tent with that thought and think about the positive implications of this surgery for you and your daughter. That's where you want your thoughts to be. You've hooked up with a great bunch of people here in the Marchers. We are all very fortunate to have one another. Shalom for now, Rob - Your March caboose (3/31 surgery)

Thanks Rob. do know that staying this way is worse. I do feel that I will be ok. It's my husband who has me upset. He was the one who brought all of this up. I was actually excited when I was able to get such a quick date and then he just got really upset. I'm getting better. Not only do I have everyone's support here but I also have other support from my mother, sister, brother and sister-in-law. (mom and s-i-l both had it done). I do however periodically break out into tears because he is the one I have to live with and if I can't talk to him about this and he can't deal I don't know what I'll do.