Hi Tori's back and feels good, but still confused.

Hi Marchers, I am feeling much better about having the surgery, my insurance approved me on the first try, so you would think that I would not be paranoid about having the surgery, I went to the surgeon on 01/29/04 and got my insurance approved the next week with a surgery date, but I felt like it was too easy, and I have talked to the dietian twice about food and I have talked to the surgeon about the surgery and afterwards, but I feel like the best people to talk to is other patients going thru the same thing, I really like to talk to pre-ops and post-ops alike, I was really worry about surgery, like will something go wrong, and then sometimes late at nite, I will have a panic attack about the surgery and about the food I will no longer have, and then during the day I feel better, I do not have panic attacks, until now that is. Late at nite, when everyone is asleep, I think I cannot go thru this surgery, how am I going to live with my new body after surgery and not able to have the food that I love, I really need your support Marchers, I am such a baby!! Tori

Hi Tori-- I am still pre-op too and a lot older, so that may affect some of my outlook, but I think you really have to "want" this change more than anything else and then you know it is right. And I hope someone corrects me if I am wrong, but the first year will be the hardest and I don't think you will even WANT the foods that you think you will miss now...you will be so busy with healing and losing weight and buying new clothes and dealing with so many compliments...lol BUT I think after a year or so it will be possible to visit old food friends but on a much much smaller scale. No pun intended.

Tori, Hi there, feeling this nervous and feeling panicky is so common! I know that it is hard to deal with..and all these feelings come to your mind about these foods. Why? Because this is what most of us relied on when we were upset, bored, happy, etc.... Now, we will not have that crutch to fall back on but that is a good thing. This is why it is so important for us Marchers and anyone who has had the surgery to stick together so we can support each other. When you feel the need for that little debbie snack cake or cookie you can tell us and we will understand!! I do not know about anyone else but at my psyc. evaluation, the doc told me that after my surgery it would be good to have some follow up counseling. At first I thought she thought I was but no that wasn't the case. She just feels that talking to someone can help you not to fall back on food. I know I have babbled enough and everyone is probably now wondering "what the heck is she talking about?" so...I will just leave it at this... what you are feeling is normal and it is so good you can come and tell us and we can help support you. If you need anything or anyone to lean on let me know Bethany 7 days and counting!

Tori, I'm so glad that you're feeling much better. I too did not have a difficult time getting surgery in order (I decided January 12 to do this and am having surgery on March 23) I looked at it as a sign from God that this was right for me or else he would put road blocks in my way to stop me from doing this. It's normal to feel a little nervous and question your decision, if you didn't that would mean that you were . This is a really big change for all of us, but you couldn't be in a better place than right here with your fellow Marchers . We will get you through this. Hang in there Whitney Angels: Baby Angel Lori and Momma Angel Va

Tori, It looks like everyone has given you wonderful advice.. All I will add is .... IMHO.. IF you don't feel ready to do this... there is NO SHAME in postponing your surgery.. It seems you are moving faster than a lot of folks so if you feel you need time don't be afraid to take it ... Perhaps this would ease the panic and anxiety you've been feeling??? Just a thought...

Hi Tori, I don't think I can add much but give you a big ((((((((HUG)))))))) Mo doin' the 25 days and a wake up happy dance