Hello I Am A Newbie To This Board!
My name is Melissa, most call me Misty. I am 44 years old and Grandmother of a beautiful Grandson. I have given this surgery a great deal of thought and decided it was the only way i was gonna see him grow up. And well my health has so gone down the past couple of years. I have been so struggling with issues here lately and well, I moved to Ohio 2 years ago leaving all my family behind, because I married a man from here. I have met no friends here, and never go any where. We live in a town where the have to pump sunshine in daily...Our nearest Wal-mart Store is 45 mins from here needless to say I think I have been there a total of 5 times in 2 years. I never go any where. So the only comfert i find is my food and my smokes, so it scares me to have this surgery cause i will be so lost. I have heard and been told I have to stop smoking. Well I went out and bought the patch and it really seemed to help, but read where NO you cant even use the patch because of the nicotein in it...WoW what a set back. So tonight is my last night. And I am so depressed, not sure how I am going to make it. But god welling and lots of prayers I hope I can do this. I am so excited about this surgery, but on the other hand I am scared to death, I made the 'BIG MISTAKE' of going to the Memorial page. I did nothing but cry for those people that lost there lives, trying to have a life. And then for 2 days i wanted to back out cause i did not want to be up on that page with them. But i understand the odds. and well its worth the risk of just having a normal life, one without pain everyday. Ok I will shut up now..My god i just read this and it even depressed me...LOL I dont know much yet, but if there is anything i can do for any of you I will be glad to help..
psssss... "Thanks so much kimmer for kidnapping me from the main board"...muahhhz 
(((hugs))) Misty 
(((hugs))) Misty 
Hi Misty, welcome to Newpouch. We are all having the same aprehensions. If you'd like, Ill email the post that Katarina, who is now MIA posted to me when I said I was scared. It does help me A LOT. Im still scared. Having 2 young boys its hard NOT to be. I wanna be healthy for them, but mostly for me. They'll love me no matter what.
I also went to the memorial board because Im a glutton for punishment I suppose. It was depressing but at the same time.. there are only 94 people listed. That, to me, is a good thing. Out of all the people who post and are on OH, there are only 94 people who passed, some of them not even as a result of wls. Thats just something to think about.
Please try to stop smoking. It will make everything go smoother. Some surgeons wont even perform the operation if you are still smoking. Also, if your going to be getting healthy, why not be healthy all around? Consider it as part of your lifestyle change.
We'll get you thru it. The Marchers are the best.
-Jessica
Hi Misty!!! Welcome to the Marchers!!!!!!! 
You have found an AWESOME bunch of people here. I have nothing but love 
for everyone on this board. My computer crashed a few days ago and I couldn't come for two days. Now, two days doesn't seem like that big of a deal but I was having MAJOR withdrawals 
from reading and chatting with the Marchers. These are good people and we are all here to support you through this.
I know how you feel moving to a new place and not having any friends. We moved here to Hesston in 2001 just two months after my son was born. My first day back at work after his birth was 9/11/01, a horrific day all around. Then on 11/1/01 I was laid off with no hope of getting hired back because they closed my office down completely. With all of that I started having postpartum depression and didn't get out to meet anyone. It took me two years to find a church and get back into a little bit of life outside the house. All my friends and family live far away also, although not as far as yours, mine are still in Kansas. I still don't have many friends here in Hesston and, like you, I rarely get out. My husband does all the shopping when he's in Wichita so all I do is stay home and watch our two angels 
My prayers are with you!!!! I keep telling myself that once the surgery is done and I start losing weight that I will feel better about myself and feel better in general so I will feel like getting out there and doing stuff. I am looking forward to doing new things and making new friends after surgery. It is hard to get out there and make friends when you are tired and you hurt all the time and can't catch your breath. I know that even when I do feel like getting out there and doing something that I am so self-conscious that I don't ever relax and enjoy myself so it's easier just to stay home. Well, that will be changing for all of us very very soon!!!! We just have to keep our eyes on our goal and keep lifting one another up!!!!
I am SO GLAD that Kimmer stole you and brought you here!!!! Welcome to the Marchers!!!
Carrie
Marchers rule!!! 
You have found an AWESOME bunch of people here. I have nothing but love for everyone on this board. My computer crashed a few days ago and I couldn't come for two days. Now, two days doesn't seem like that big of a deal but I was having MAJOR withdrawals from reading and chatting with the Marchers. These are good people and we are all here to support you through this.
I know how you feel moving to a new place and not having any friends. We moved here to Hesston in 2001 just two months after my son was born. My first day back at work after his birth was 9/11/01, a horrific day all around. Then on 11/1/01 I was laid off with no hope of getting hired back because they closed my office down completely. With all of that I started having postpartum depression and didn't get out to meet anyone. It took me two years to find a church and get back into a little bit of life outside the house. All my friends and family live far away also, although not as far as yours, mine are still in Kansas. I still don't have many friends here in Hesston and, like you, I rarely get out. My husband does all the shopping when he's in Wichita so all I do is stay home and watch our two angels My prayers are with you!!!! I keep telling myself that once the surgery is done and I start losing weight that I will feel better about myself and feel better in general so I will feel like getting out there and doing stuff. I am looking forward to doing new things and making new friends after surgery. It is hard to get out there and make friends when you are tired and you hurt all the time and can't catch your breath. I know that even when I do feel like getting out there and doing something that I am so self-conscious that I don't ever relax and enjoy myself so it's easier just to stay home. Well, that will be changing for all of us very very soon!!!! We just have to keep our eyes on our goal and keep lifting one another up!!!!
I am SO GLAD that Kimmer stole you and brought you here!!!! Welcome to the Marchers!!!
Carrie
Marchers rule!!! 
Melissa
Don't feel alone. Especially now. I Just felt your pain when I read this post and just had to say Hello.. You are right, you know the risk and I think everyone should read the memorials. Just know that alot of them did not die from WLS. I Am alone every day, except for school classes, (I should be doing up some notes on the computer now - shame on me), and as the days get closer to surgery day.. I am fast becoming a basket case. I MISS MY CIGARETTES... I am on day 3 of quitting..... Should have done it much sooner. Now my crutches are gone.... Biting nails is next.. Hey, Are nails allowed on our diets? Hang in there Melissa. 
Janet 
Hey Misty,
My name is Yolanda and I too am a newbie to the board although I have been a member since last year. So welcome, welcome, welcome. 
I have heard about the memorial page but I have never been to it. I know for a fact that if I see that page before surgery I will change my mind. I have a hard enough time looking at obituaries in the newspaper let alone a memorial page about a surgery I am preparing to have. I have read about some people passing 
in some of the profiles I was reading so I don't even read those anymore. I just look at the pictures and try to keep positive thoughts.
I have heard about the memorial page but I have never been to it. I know for a fact that if I see that page before surgery I will change my mind. I have a hard enough time looking at obituaries in the newspaper let alone a memorial page about a surgery I am preparing to have. I have read about some people passing in some of the profiles I was reading so I don't even read those anymore. I just look at the pictures and try to keep positive thoughts. 
and obviously am not entirely awake yet.
Rob (the caboose) 
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