Anyone having problems with a significant other

Hello everyone. I was wondering if any of you Marchers, since surgery date is right around the corner, are having any issues regarding surgery with a significant other? if so how are you handling the extra stress brought on by the significant's other. Im to the point that I can not handle a other person's insecurities when I'm about to have surgery and have to deal with everything (work, school, and bills) before surgery. Any suggestions or even stories?

Tell him/her that you are starting a new Journey... and if he/she wants to come along, then hop on the bandwagon. If not, then you are going anyway. Your life is your JOURNEY !!!. If they don't want to travel with you, then forget it. You are "Moving Forward" and it is their choice if they want to accompany you or not. Read the post labeled "A wild Ride" That is LIFE ! Janet

I don't share that problem, but I am very sorry that you have it. It may ultimately come down to choosing life or this S.O. It shouldn't be that way, but I hope you can stay strong and do what you need to for you. If this person love you, that should be their stand too. Hugs! Joy

Well my significant other doesn't think I should have the surgery. He says he likes me the way that I am, but I think his problem is that he is feeling insecure. He knows that I am fed up with him and his BS. He tells me I am not fat but I know better than that. I am 5'5" and 258lbs. I have pretty much pushed him aside b/c this is my year and I want change. I refuse to go down the same road again and I told him so. But he is all of a sudden hanging around more and calling more often. Now he wants to pay attention.

You are definitely not alone... My husband is adamently against me having this done. He thinks I'm taking the lazy way out. I just ignore it - I know in my heart that I'm doing the right thing and that's enough for me.

That is why my surgeon suggested spouses doing the pysch eveluations and support group meetings as well. Remember they are scared. Life will change for them. I do not have a spouse so I do not have any experience. The one I had at one time was very insecure. It was driving up both nuts. He finally decided he could not take it any more and left. That was the best that happened for me. But I know in this instance, once surgery is over they could become your main supporter again.

My story is a little different from most. This surgery is really making my SO and I closer. We have been seeing each other for 4 years (we are seniors over 60 and grandparents) and love each other, but he wasn't willing to go to a higher level which I was. He is very health conscious, and keeps in shape, has had a lot of surgeries but does everything he is supposed to and my weight and not being able to take care of it was really working against us. He was loving and supportive of me, he never made me feel unattractive or anything, but now that we both know I am gonna look great.....hmmmmm? I am thinking things are going to be OK!