A wierd question

Hi y'all It's been a great year - 3/20/03 290.5/159.5. But I have a wierd question. Do you ever feel thin? I've gone from size 26/28 to size 12 and everyone is telling me how thin/good I look. And they aren't being ugly about it, they're truly complimenting me. But I still don't feel thin to me. I walk by a mirror or reflection in a window and I can see how much better I look. But I can't actually visualize myself as thin. Yes, I can see my clavicle bones, and when I lie down, my ribs and hipbones stick out. Will I always have the "fat" mentality. I guess part of it stems from the loose skin I see when I make the mistake of looking in the mirror sans clothes!!! I went on a shopping spree last weekend and stood behind a lady in line who was putting size 18 pants on the counter. I didn't think she looked any fatter than I did. I know this is probably wierd to most of you, but i was just wondering.

I had my surgery on 3/20/03 also!! I have lost 115 lbs and alot of inches! I have gone from a 20 to a 4 petite and yes, at times I do not feel thin. I know I am, but I just don't feel it. I can see it in pictures though! Maybe in time my mind will catch up. Love, Lindy

It took WLS to make me thin and it took plastic surgery to make me "feel" thin. I had plastic surgery just 3 weeks ago and until that time my mind would always see the extra skin and I would tell myself I am still fat. Well once my surgeon took off the extra skin I finally realized I am not fat, that it really was just skin that was hanging off me making me look fat, at least to myself. The mental adjustment has been a much harder one to make for me then anything regarding the diet changes. My wife and others have been telling me for months how skinny I am, and I just could not believe them until that hanging skin was eliminated. Now I do actually feel thin, for the first time in my entire life. It really is an odd feeling when it goes against a mind set of being fat that I developed over 35+ years of my life.

I'm glad I read this.... My date is Sept 9th 2004 I keep saying that I will be happy no matter what skin is hanging. I don't want to go under the knife again............. But after reading your note......I may have to rethink that. Thank you. Debi

I know how you feel. I started at 251 pounds and I am now 129.5 and I still feel fat.. Why? I dont know maybe our brains have not caught up with our bodies. I wear a size 4/6 and I still want to go to the plus sizes first . I have people telling me to stop loosing but I just dont see how I can if I still feel fat . Will we ever be happy with our bodies I doubt it ..

Hey Linda! It's not a weird question, I too still feel HUGE although it is definately noticeable that I have lost a lot of weight and can wear a size 12 and some size 10's. it's a mind thing, it still has not caught up. I'm having my Plastic surgery next month to get rid of this hanging stomach, the surgeon says I'll be going down a couple of more sizes when my tummy is flat, I can't wait for that!!! When I go shopping I keep finding myself in the Plus size section, go figure Marilyn

I have the same problem, so I guess it's a trend. I went from size 22 to size 8 and I still feel like about size 16. I asked my Dr. about this and he said it takes a while, but after about 2 years, we get used to our new size and start seeing ourselves "true to size". I can't wait, cause it's wierd stepping on the scale and seeing 155, but still feeling 215. Marina

Hey thinking you have a wierd question, I do not think that this is strange or weird at all. I think it has to do with having a certain idenity for so long and becoming if you will, someone else on the outside. I have some of these issues. I went from a size twenty plus to a five. I went to the coast for my birthday and I told my husband as I looked in the mirrors of the car that I saw a huge fat person. Although, I know this is not true-I could honestly see myself big again. He said it was the reflection in the mirror. Yeah, my reflection of the past. It was strange. I find myself looking in almost every mirror in dis-believe that this is me.