3 days short of 8 months

Thursday will be 8 months for me (3/20). Since surgery I am down 118 lbs. (173 since 12/22/02). I am in a 14-16 blouses/shirts and shirtwaist/loose dresses, and 18-20 in pants and/or straight skirts. What a change in so short a time! I run into people all the time who do not recognize me! Sometimes this is fun and sometimes it's not--depends on where I am at the time! I have just found this site and am glad to see I seem to be parallelling some of ya'll. I may go to a support group tomorrow evening for the first time--that may be helpful. I think it's fun to see how ya'll's husbands feel they have a new wife--I just wish the guy I'm interested in would say something. I know he appreciates what I have gone through but still keeps his distance--maybe waiting to see how things turn out. I do seem to have a lot of married men and those who could be my father expressing their appreciation--wouldn't you know!! Their wives also acknowledge my accomplishment but I've noticed I don't get the hugs from the men I used to and the wives don't seem to be as friendly. Sometimes this really sucks, so I spend a lot of time home with my little Laddie (my Scottie). Anyone else encounter this?

Congratulations on the weight loss. We seem to be about the same in weightloss and sizes. 14-16 tops and 16-18 bottoms and about 120 in loss. I can't say that I have experienced the lack of hugs and distance from the gals. I volunteer in a very close knit group of people and they are so supportive. I seem to get more complements from the guys than I do the gals but even the gals are very very supportive. Just saturday night one of the guys that Ihave known for almost 10 years put his arms around me, backed off, and tried again, he looked at me and said, I can put my arms around you and still have room to see your face. (It used to be when he hugged me, my face was burried in his chest). Life is grand. Have a great holiday.

Congratulation on your weight loss! You have done an amazing job, keep up the good work. I too have found women to be on the competitive/judgemental side so I kept my WLS a secret. I didn't want to have to explain myself or my reason's to anyone. I have discovered that during this journey I was able to find my true friends, it was a sad realization but I didn't want people in my life who were not going to support me. Just keep doing what your doing and things will fall into place. Don't wait for the guy to make the first move, honey you make it. I feel that I'm still the same person that I was when I was fat and if you didn't like me when I was fat I'm not giving you the time of day now that I'm thinner. 280/156/140 Best Wishes~