Am I being unreasonable?
I was just wondering if anybody else felt that their family wasn't really interested?? Maybe I'm just being ultra-sensative but, I don't think my family (hubby, kids, mom, brothers, etc....) are much interested in what will be happening to me and what I will be going thru. I have books, magazines, etc., but none have expressed an interested in reading anything on WLS. My hubby even asked "I'll have to take off a couple of days, won't I, because somebody will have to be here to help you won't they?". That kind-of hurt as, last year, I spent a month in the hospital with him and a week at home taking care of him. Also spent a month in the hospital with my son when he was injured. Took off work both times. I know they support me but, it would be nice if they showed some interest. Hubby thinks because he went to the seminar, he knows everything he needs to know. I don't think he has even looked at the pre-op info packet yet. Oh well....I guess I'm just being ridiculous because I'm starting to get a bit nervous and it just seems that nobody is noticing.
Donna,
Having a good support group is very critical t your success. If you don't have the support at home, I strongly recommend you get some folks together either via this message board, the Texas Message Board, or have your surgeon suggest a local support group. And yes, when you get home you are going to need LOTS of help for at least a week or more.
Good luck and know that the folks here will be sending only the most positive thoughts your way!
Danny
Hi Donna,
In the begining of my journey my family did not think that it was a Major surgery, but I took them to a few support group meetings, my appt with my surgeron the day before my surgery, and to see my friend in the hospital who just had the RNY surgery . I wanted them to know that support is VERY important to me and it's something that I will need forom them always. Once they got a look at all that they understood what I will be going through, because what happens to me has a effect on them in a way. I Had my surgery on Feb 8th and came home on Feb 10th, My fiance took off 1 week after I came home to help me ( I felt that after 1 week I should be able to do some things by myself) But all my family and friends called or stoped by to check on me.
You should let them get on this website and have a look around so they can understand what you will be going through. I hope that they do give you 100% and more of their support, because you already have ours.
Stephanie
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My husband has been with me thru 2 c-sections, 1 yr ago and 3 yrs ago. He just went with me thru lap RNY 5 days ago. He was a jewel. And he knew before this surgery I would be going thru something big. He was also a jewel before, during and after my 2nd c-section. However, before my first c-section, he was kind of distant. He wasn't the most supportive beforehand. He had never been there and didn't truely know what I would need. I think he might have been afraid to mess things up. But when the time came and I needed him, he was a trooper, staying by my side and helping me. I bet once you get into the process, you will be amazed at what a help you husband really can be. Good luck to you and I'll keep you in my prayers!
...Jill
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