Feeling Resentful toward family?

It was pretty easy to keep a secret because I was only in the hospital for one night and by the time my dad saw me it was 4 days later and my mom told him I wasn't feeling well so he left me alone. My family has seen me gain and lose weight all my life so this time they will think I'm just on another diet Well I wish you the best! Sylvia

You were in the hospital for only ONE night? I've never heard of that. I was there for two nights. You know what, that's what I wanted to tell my family before they found out. Oh well...I'm beginning to realize that I shouldn't be worried about what they think. I let their remarks & thoughts bother me as a kid I'm not going to let them bother me as an adult. Elisa

Elisa, I totally understand how you are feeling. I didn't tell my brother, grandmother - and any aunts/uncles. There are friends of mine who don't know either. I really don't know how they will react when they see me. I really have been avoiding most of them. I did this surgery for me - and really don't feel the need to explain it to them. I sort of fibbed to them - and told them I was having my gallbladder out. (which was partly the truth - it did come out....but, along with many other 'plumbing' changes) . I will say that everyone that knows I had the surgery - when they first see me - look me up and down - and immediately ask "how much have you lost"???? I guess this will be cool for a while - and I am sure it will get tiring. Most see me in the grocery store - and make sure to check out what is in my cart (I guess to see if I am cheating, or something). You look like you have had wonderful progress - and that is the most important. Your aunts would have found out eventually - and I guess - let them compliment you.....you look great!! Best wishes, Tammy

Thanks Tammy! I have a few friends I didn't tell too...my old highschool friends. I also have avoided seeing them these past 5 years...the last time I saw them was on my wedding day and I was big but not as big as 300#s. I agree with you on doing the surgery strictly FOR ME and I wish I could of used the gallbladder excuse but I used that one 3 years ago when I really did need it out. I just hate that...people who watch what your eating just to try and point out that maybe you shouldn't be eating that particular food or whatever--like they know? Thanks again Tammy, take care and best wishes to you too!! Elisa