OT: IN A FUNK

Hey family. I try not to do much complaining since having surgery because I am blessed that God even allowed me to make it through, but something has got to give. I can't take it anymore. I know people have told me to stay encouraged but the scale isn't moving I mean here I am two months out today and I've lost 35lbs. I mean I know people who have lost that in a few weeks. I know that everyone's body is different but I feel like something is wrong cause it sure ain't right. In a way I am kind of thinking did i do the right thing. I won't second guess what I did because I know it was for the best but why am I losing so slow. Some body please help me and let me know what is going on!!! I love you

Hey, I totally undersand and it can be frustrating but....you CAN NOT i repeat CAN NOT compare yourself to other people. If I did that i too would be discouraged. I has only lost 39 pounds in 9 weeks so i am about where you are. Have you started to work out? I have found it keeps me on track. I only weigh once a week i tried the whole once a month thing yea that was torture lol. You will loose weight when your body is ready and as fast as your body will allow. Nothing is wrong with slow. I told someone else check your measurments you will see a big change there. I do this every month. If you ever want to talk we are always here but dont get down cause you didnt loose 50 pounds in 2 months (that was my original goal) and it upset me but then i said you nkow what move on jules being upset isnt gonna make the pounds drop off. SO KEEP ON KEEPIN ON.. WE LOVE YOU TOO! J

Yes I have started to work out. it makes me feel good. yeah i do believe that inches are coming off becuase my clothes are fallin off of me! Thank you and best of luck

I think if you look at the chart, we are all losing around the same rate, with the people at the top of the month having a lower weekly weight loss average [I'm guessing this is because they lost more in the first few weeks, like we all did, and are slowing down/stalling now, like many of us are]. I don't know what to say to encourage you, but for me, I just chose not to look at it that way. Many of us are complaining of stalls. January folks had stalls around the same time post-op, old WLSers say stalls are a part of the journey. I focus on doing what I am supposed to be doing [hitting protein/fluid targets and trying to get my heart rate going for 30 minutes a day]. I do weigh myself every morning, and the scale hasn't much moved in over a week now, but besides being bummed when I look down [around my boobs LOL], I let it go. I've gotten advice to weigh only once a week, and I really think that is good advice, especially if this is causing such a FUNK for you. The only stories I've ever read [few and far between] where WLS patients don't lose are the ones where the patients are non-compliant. So for me, I focus on being compliant, and I take that as success for now. I also measure my success in how I feel, my b/p meds are halved, my GERD meds are GONE, I have normal blood sugars, I can sleep better [even without the CPAP]. I'm willing to bet my left big toe [and it's a BIG one;)] that the scale will start moving again and that next year at this time we'll be worried about a number of other things [like stalling because we AREN'T following the rules!]. Feel good girl, CHOSE HAPPINESS! You lost 25 pounds since February? That's AWESOME! xosm

thank you

Hey Girl I am feeling you too! I have only lost about 35lbs and I had surgery on the 6th of February! I was getting dissapointed but my husband was like you can tell that you lost weight with the inches!! I guess our problem is that we want it to fall off immediately! Just keep working out because I am starting to see some lbs falling off the scale and I just saw it happen today! You are doing great and we are going to be skinny minnies sooner then we know it! Keep up the good work Stephanie

thank you and best of luck!

I can relate but don't be so hard on yourself. I have to constantly remind myself that everyone is different and we are all going to lose at different rates. I'm almost 6wks out and the scale seems to be crawling. My first month I lost 31lbs but now I lose 2-3lbs a week but I figure it's just my body catching up. My 3rd week out I didn't lose anything then the next week I lost 5lbs. Our bodies are going to do what they do. I can feel it in my clothes so I know I'm losing inches. Just hang in there girl and it will come off. And try not to weigh yourself everyday because that's discouraging when you see the scale not moving. Hide the scale and pick a day and weigh only on that day. It works for me because I was becoming a scale ho and weighed every morning just to be disappointed. for your 35lb loss...that's fantastic! Sylvia

I can understand how you are feeling. I have been going through a stall in my weight loss as well (over 2 weeks at the same weight), and just now (the past 2 days) started losing again. It is very frustrating. I too always try to be very positive and I am very happy for the loss I do experience, but after a while it does get frustrating when you don't see anything happening. I did measure myself during that time and was very pleased with the inches I had lost. I think we will be fine in the end... we jus****ch it very closely now and are expecting great things. I believe they will happen! Hugs, Deanna

Heck complaining once in awhile is a good thing ! I used to get on the scale everyday too but got so angry when it seemed like it was up and down so now I get on only once a week. I picked Monday cuz that was the day of my surgery ! I also forget the past. People will ask me how much I lost in such and such a period of time and I to be totally honest just know what I weigh as of my last Monday weigh in. I don't try to remember how much I lost in week 3 or 4... It is over with and I can't go back to change it. Some of us have spent so much time being heavy and then once we started this WLS journey we have devoted sooo much time and energy to "doing it" that it seems like the whole process is a never ending saga. We will get there ! Your clothes are getting too big ! Wait til you send the first piece of clothing to the thrift store or hand me down pile cuz it is too big ! I went to the local thrift store and bought a skirt for $2 (!!!!!!!!) that is a size 14- (I haven't been a size 14 except for about 2 seconds when I was in the 6th grade!) That skirt is my second goal. Pick a REALISTIC goal and then aim for it ! You are doing great !! We are all in this together and anytime you need to talk or vent remember that we are here ! (I am happy that I found all of you and proud that I have a bunch of friends who I can rely on for help and support when I need it.) Keep us posted ! We are proud of you !