negitive nellies

Why is it everytime i tell someone i had gastric by pass..>THEY ALWAYS KNOW SOMEONE WHO GAINED THERE WEIGHT BACK??? lol According to stats only 10% gain it back after RNY is it possible i have met the friends of EVERYONE in that 10%?? ARG! J

No I have also been told that so You must know 5% and I must have friends that Know the other 5%. Doug.

hahahaha....WELL DOUG WE ARE GONNA PROVE THEM WRONG UH??? J

That's the plan. Keep up the good work. Doug.

hence the reason I went star jones. It's like I'm the kid from 6th sense but instead of seeing dead people....I see stupid people. Scott

I really wish that I had taken the "Jones route" also. I just kept thinkin though that if someone in my family had the surgery I would want to know, so I could be supportive. So silly me I let both my family and hubby's family know about it. I love them all but am tired of being watched and the only topic of conversation. Sometimes it is hard enough "being good" without having to be constatnly reminded and watched !

Ok, now do these people all know the same people who've had WLS? I got tired of the negative comments, one girl at work told me I took the easy way out. Come on. Nothing in life is easy. So, tell the friends of friends to get new friends. Ofcourse our surger is very visable because were shrinking. Anyone can gain weight, it happens from eating too many calaories.... I'm scared to be fat again too. I'm debating about if we should have another child in the next year or so, and honestly I don't want to gain the weight and I forsure don't want to hit 200lbs ever again in this life time. I'm scared I cannot stick with this for the rest of my life. I"m rather young.

Yeah I have no idea why I went and told some co-workers at work. They have made the most stupidest comments ever....like "you want to be anorexic don't you?" or "I know you don't eat Elisa...but there's cookies in the shelf if you want some" and then someone who supposedly doesn't know about my surgery (cause I sure didn't tell her) says "Elisa, you are getting thinner & thinner!"... I guess but why would she make such a comment if she didn't know? Gee...I wonder why? I'm with you Jennifer, I haven't had any kids but now I don't even want to think about having any because I don't want to gain the weight . Add me to the list of scared-to-gain-the-weight-back. Plus not to mention that I am losing soooo slow this month. 2 #s!!!! That's all I've lost this month and it's almost over. What the heck!!! I met this one person who had the surgery....I think it was 10 years ago? or 6? and he says he was 400+ pounds and managed to keep 100+ off but did gain weight...I think he said about 80#s. So now he's doing the nutrisystem diet to lose weight again. Well, anyway just wanted to share. Glad to read I'm not the only one that feels the way I do sometimes. Elisa

I have not encountered any negativity [well, except from myself, gotta still work on that]. But there's no accounting for stupidity and/or ignorance. I remember when I was losing weight on WW BEFORE WLS I envied people who were 'fat enough' to be able to have surgery [how ignorant was that?!?!?]. I didn't know anything about it and I just imagined it must be sooo easy. I can't completely say that I think it's been hard [it was *much* harder before WLS], I think it's probably going to be the hardest to keep the weight off. But hey, having my gut cut open from stem to stern, then open again and be draining for months after surgery, no, that wasn't easy. But for me, it was easier than just the mere thought of gaining weight back again. So to those naysayers who know all the folks who gained there weight back, I would just have to say, 'with planning and hard work, I hope that will not happen to me.' xosm