9 months Post op

Most of us ...i will not say all but most i am sure...eat casue of emotions. I am a nighttime eater. during the day i rock at night i sit in bed and think and all i do is run to the kitchen.. I have tired to put a drink next to my bed to discourage me from eating. or eatting something not so bad but as we all know i revert to carbs cause carbs FEEL good. last night i had 5 bite of pasta...and well i tossed it lol i was kinda happy i did cause i didnt need it. i am sad alot to. I try to hide it cause everyone will say why are you sad..and to be honest i dont know i just feel like i a perpatrating someone else lol. good luck! i am right there with ya!. J

AWEsome, Scott, really super amazing. When I see what you eat, I have to admit I feel a bit envious; I have to remind myself the eating disorder I need help to overcome and how the RNY has helped me recover. If you LIKE your family, tell them the truth, I would think they would be happy to know it's not because your sick! If you don't like them, well, no one is entitled to an explanation. Tell them the truth, you changed your diet and exercise more. For me, it's just easier to tell *most* everyone [I am terrified to tell the people at WW because I don't think they could understand and I don't want them to feel like I'm cheating - because I *feel* like I'm cheating]. I do think it was a easier way for me, and I'm just not prepared to let people think I lost over 100 pounds in such a short time with a simple diet change. But that's just me, I suck at keeping a secret. I'd rather suffer someone's judgement of my WL choices then to feel like I'm being deceptive. AnyHOOha, EXCELLENT TERRIFIC STUPENDOUS at losing a FAT PERSON! xoxoxosm

See I dont' feel deceptive....i mean I really just try not to answer the question directly. Besides...if you've had WLS you had to change the way you were eating in both quantity and quality. Even with the DS, I can't as much as I did preop, nor do I usually eat sugary type foods...i mean once in a while, but not everyday. So to say I changed the way I'm eating and I'm exercising are both true. Besides, I didn't tell anyone I had surgery, not friends, not family, not my own kids...just my wife and one of my sisters. I really pulled the Ole star jones. As for the surgery and stuff....you had the surgery that was best suited for you and is working for you. Which is awesome!!!! BTW how is WW going? Have you seen your weight loss increased since you started going? Scott

I don't think ANY of us should feel deceptive for exactly the reasons you mention, but for whatever reason I *do* anytime I don't fully disclose my whole life story; issues, did I mention I have issues? Golly, you didn't tell your kids? Gee, that's a commendable feat in an of itself. If you went this long and feel good about it, then I wouldn't tell anyone. I mean, when you think 'need to know', who actually NEEDS to know and why? Your wife, maybe your kids someday, but I can't imagine why anyone else would NEED to know, KWIM? I think I already told you I wasn't too informed about the DS to make the RNY a real 'choice', but even now that I've read more about it and visited the DS board, I think I happened to luck out with my path. I needed the time to step back from my ED and I don't know that I would have had it with the DS. If I ever need a revision it's certainly an option I'd research more than I did the first time around, though. I don't know for sure if my ED is GONE per se, so I will have to see how that plays out as well. Yeah, I do feel my weight loss is awesome, but since I did not do all the homework I should have on the DS vs RNY in the first place, I guess I get that 'now I'm more knowledgeable' niggle ... I can't help but wonder if I would have made the same choice ... again, NO REGRETS, I AM HAPPY. WW is going well, thanks. I don't think it bumped up my loss that much ... I think I'm still around 10lbs per month - will see at the next monthly chart weigh in, but I *hope* that it stays that way [I haven't had one single significant stall yet KNOCK WOOD]. I do find that I am making better choices so that I stay low in points, and the high fiber has me feeling more satisfied most days. I also know that when I'm tired of counting points and to change things up again, I can try their CORE plan. I really, really, really want to get to my *goal* [not sure if it's realistic yet till I see the plastic surgeon] by my surgery date, and that's 40 pounds in like 12 weeks ... probably a little steep but I will try. I have FINALLY bumped up my exercise, I have done the treadmill 4x since Thursday and am trying to do it at least every night there is hockey on [much more enjoyable that way]. I am also really [surprisingly] enjoying the weekly meetings, even if I *am* incognito there. There is some measure of comfort in it, not sure why, I guess it's a bunch of people with a common goal. Happy Thanksgiving. Is there any food that you are looking forward to indulging in? I am looking forward to being NORMAL. I am grateful that I can have a little of anything and make it work [and not get sick!!]. I do long for a glass or two of wine to help deal with the in-laws, but I suppose that's why they invented Xanax LOL! xosm

I know about wanting to reach your goal weight by the time your at your 1 year mark. I think those weight loss calculators are just plain EVIL!!!! They all have you reaching goal between 8 and 12 months...which is just not realistic for a SMO person unless they have complications (which i didn't..thank GOD). I have about 65 lbs to reach my first goal (200 lbs). I really have to see where I am at that point in terms of looks. I do have a dream goal of 175 based on the medical BMI charts...but I'm not sure if thats reality. Anyway...I figured if I can get to 220s by my 1 year ...I'll be very happy. So if you want I'll join you in your quest to lose 40 lbs by my one year!!!!! WOOO HOOOO I have a goal. Ok so my starting weight is 266.....I wonder if anyone else will join us?????? As for looking forward to foods? Not really...my taste buds have changed after WLS, and food in the future doesn't sound as good as it use to. I mean last year at this time, I was looking forward to turkey for days....turkey sandwiches, turkey salad, turkey on salads, turkey soup..whatever. But now...nah...i'm sure I will enjoy it, but just the "hopeful" expectation is not there. Will I endulge a little bit??? Probably, my wife bought some "special" chocolates for thanksgiving, and a carmel apple pie (the kind that are frozen then you bake it). Plus she's going to make her homemade cranberry sauce....so I'll probably try a taste of everything, but not much of anything....if that makes sense???? I mean I have to avoid those simple carbs if I'm going to make our 40 lb goal by our 1 year anniversary date!!!!! (BTW mine is on the 17th of Feb). Scott I'm going to make another post an see if anyone wants to join us....