Do you compare yourself to others???

I never have, until now. I have a friend who lost ALL her weight in a year, all of it. I figured she was a fast loser, I'm about 9 pounds from losing half of what I need to lose, and Monday will be my 6 month anniversary. I just found this Feb 2006 site & keep reading about size 12 and 14, and 100 lbs lost at 6 months, and am feeling like I'm way behind here. i don't mean to take any joy from anyone, I am so proud of everyone i just would like to know if I'm very far behind, or not alone? i drink plenty of water, more than 64 ounces, and I'm getting in all my protein, I walk every day. i don't eat a lot, I get in my protein, and that's it, no carbs hardly, no sugars, no pasta, breads I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I started at 310, am 289, 6 months on the 7th I know it can slow way down from here and I still have over a hundred pounds to go. Anyone else have this feeling?

HELL yes I compare myself to others. I think we all do at some point.........if not forever. I am a slow loser too.........someone that weighed the same as me and had surgery on the same day has already lost 75 lbs and I have lost 67 so then I think!! hey....whats wrong w/ me....why havent I lost 75..........but then it makes me re-think how I've been eating and if I've been exercising.........so then it makes me change.....I've come to think of it like this......as long as I am losing that is all that counts. Even if it is 5 lbs. a month.....its still 5 lbs. So keep your chin up and we all can go through these ups and downs together! Kristin

Go to fitday.com and log an average day of eating. Maybe you're not eating enough. I'ev had that problem twice now and had to up my calories. You should be around 800-1000 calories a day now. If you're exercising a lot, it should be more. I compare myself to every one. I walk into a room and look around to see if I'm the biggest one there. I say to myself, "Am I about that size now?" (sigh) when will this stop? LOL

Thanks girls I think I was a little emotional yesterday I just gave away all my big clothes to a couple of co-workers, and it was a CRAZY feeling, i was glad to be rid of them, but kept them for a long time after they didn't fit. I am fitting in clothes that still look too small to my eyes, and am amazed that they fit, I was going through everything yestersay I was in such a great mood, was joyful in fact, then I come here and start reading about the weight loss of others who've had surgery the same time, the weight they've lost and the sizes they fit in, and for the first time it occured to me that I might not be doing as well as I thought. But today is a better day I am losing, that's all that matters, I have no complications, feel great, and will try to get my joy back;)

I am heading upon my 6 month anniversary and I've lost 70lbs. My total goal is 100lbs, I was 247 on surgery day. I am pleased with my progress. I haven't compaired myself with other wls patients. I have a few at work, but I don't talk about it as I don't want to be the RNY poster child. That being said, I find myself in denial that I can fit in a 12 and a large. My nature was to buy the biggest size the store has, now I have to try things on. I am uncomfortable in my own skin. I look in the mirror before showering and think I look gross. However, I have to learn to love myself. We had major surgery although my recover was awsome, I have been treated like it was minor surgery. I am glad your having a better day. I enjoy seeing people at work who make a huge deal about how 'skinny' I am. I don't think the 170's are skinny. A gay guy at work told me that I needed to quit losing weight. Duh, would you tell a skinny person to gain weight. This world is weight obsessed and it seems we all fall for the trap. Stay strong and makesure you post here, these ladies are awsome. JT

Oh boy, do I compare myself to others! I know I should'nt but I have a hard time not comparing myself. My OH friends always tell my to stop comparing myself because everyone loses differently and everyone starts off differently. So now I stopped looking at the weight so much and started looking at my clothing size. A couple of women who had surgery the same week or the week after me have already lost over 100lbs and some are very close to goal weight. I'm thankful for losing 81lbs but I still need to lose 50-60lbs to reach my goal. I have 6 1/2 months before my 1yr so I hope to reach this goal by then. It looks like your doing pretty good with your protein, water and exercise so continue doing what your doing and the weight will come off. Sylvia

I think you have a typo, you wrote here 289, but your chart weight is 229, I am guessing the 229 is right. I say go ahead and compare yourself, but be honest. Look at the chart, the average weight loss here is 89 pounds, that's averaging people who had surgery from the 1st day of the month to the last, and including the men [they are doing so well, the stinkers!] ... you've lost 81. The people on the chart with the same surgery day as you have lost an average of 80 pounds, that puts you one pound above average. Sure, we all have emotional days and maybe for those that have lost a lot more it still isn't ever fast 'enough', but IMHO it's counterproductive to beat yourself up over being 'slow' when, according to the hard evidence you're right there with all of us. It's so easy to entertain negative thoughts, to hold onto negative body images, negative self-esteem, but look where it got us. Look ahead to where you are going and tell yourself the truth! You are doing well and following the rules and the measure of success will be how well you can change your thoughts to match the wonderful changes in your body. xosm

It is so funny i was just talking to my mom about that. I see people at the mall at walmart or just at the bank andi am like "am i her size or bigger" why? what does it matter? why do we torment ourself. why cause we are women and we will do it for the rest of our lives weather it be what size or who has better shoes or a nicer purse. we are freaks lol BUT the good thing is we can come here and see its not just us that we are all going through it weather we lost 50 pounds or 100 pounds a size 16 or a 10 we all have the same feelings we all deal with the same issues and we all understand. I hope we can help you and i am sure you have helped someone else with your post! chin up and look around your not alone. ::::waving:::::Hi im Julie and i am right here with ya! J