They're coming to torture me again!!

My aunts are coming to "visit" once again. Last time they were here I wasn't around so they didn't get to see the transforming me. Man, I hate this. I know I shouldn't hide and I shouldn't care what anybody thinks but I just don't want to give them the pleasure of seeing me . They talk & gossip so much amongst themselves--it's FRUSTRATING!! So now they have taken out a "weapon"--my cousin. I haven't seen that girl in years! We used to hang out and have fun together. So she emailed me and told me that my aunts have been "talking" and that she knows how they are and so on and she wanted to know if we were going to be available. My cousin wants to come only if we are around. I would hate to disappoint her cause I would like to see her but JUST her. Sorry guys just wanted to vent-- it always helps. Thanks! Elisa

I feel for you. I have three Aunts and omg the can be so wicked. Expecially when they get together. I have had them gang up on me and/or other members of the family. I seen my eldest aunt today and couldnt even tell her I was getting married. And I am 42 years old. I was afraid she would try to talk us out of it. oh I feel for you. love marie

Thank you Marie . Elisa

Aww ... don't ya just hate family? (hugs)

Well, I try not to but it's so hard sometimes--j/k Thanks! I guess I'll survive. Elisa

oh man! Those nosy aunts need to have something better to do. Sometimes the best way to deal with people is to kill them with kindness. I remember an incident at work where two ladies were always causing trouble and gossiping on me. I turned it around on them and they didn't like that much but they stopped at that point once they figured out that I could play too. It was kind of fun actually, it made me feel better. I normally would never do such a thing but these ladies were very bad to me. Ironically, we are now pretty good friends. Well, if nothing else be encouraged because you are taking care of yourself and doing what is right. Know that gossip is an ugly thing but truth will always prevail. Smile and say hello and nice to see you and all that and let them wonder why you are so happy. That will bug them worse than anything. see ya, Lori

Hi Lori What a great story. I like that..."kill them with kindness" I think that's what I'll do . Thanks for the support! Elisa

Hey there, Elisa! Why don't you write your cousin and tell her that you will be around, but you are going to X, Y or Z, and SHE is more than welcome to come with you, so you guys can spend some time together. Just plan something......go out and do it, and be in a hurry about it....let the aunts see you....coming or going, but you don't have to hang around! Just give them enough to satisfy their tastes, but not enough to hear their gabbing! I am dealing with this with hubby's family right now....they are looking in my plates, "is that ALL you GET to eat???" I say NO, that is all I CHOSE to eat! The fact that I am looking GOOOOD is enough to quiet them down. lol when we saw them yesterday, I just kept way to busy for their chit-chat, and if they talk amongst each other, all they'll have to say is that I look great, so they can go ahead lol Good luck to yoU! Never stop living your life and doing what you want to do, on the account of someone else's opinion.......most of us got in this shape making everyone else happy...it is YOUR turn! IF you want to spend time with your cousin, then do, and if you don't want to hang out with your aunts, then DON'T....it's all about you! Sandra

Thank you once again! Want to know what the latest is? Well my aunt wants to know if they can stay over at my house--so I'm going to have to see them regardless. Oh well, I will survive . Elisa