a total wow moment followed by a total insult...in my eyes anyway!

Ok let's do the wow moment first....saturday my mom and i were shopping for a new coat for me, finally. anyway the lady that works in the store knows us really well (we're there every week) and we overheard her telling this other lady how much weight i've lost and how different i look. so my mom breaks out my picture from last year and shows her...then next thing i know half the customers and all the employees in the store are crowded around looking at the picture in disbelief that it's me in the pic. i got so many compliments and encouraging words it was so awesome. i do get a little embarassed when my mom does the picture thing though (yes she's done that before)! so now the insult....yesterday we had a little get together at my mom's house for my sister and my husband's birthdays....anyway my dad says "i don't think you need to lose any more weight stephie"..."thanks for your opinion" i told him...well that opened the gate for everyone else to give their opinion...my friend's husband told me i look like i'm going for that "heroin chic look.." because my "face is starting to sink in and i look fragile" THANKS! he then procedes to tell me that i looked better about 20 pounds ago...i don't know, i still see what's going on under the clothes so that's what keeps me going. i'm not even at the nutritionists goal yet! you guys have seen the pics on my profile....what do you think?? Steph 350/153/150

hi steph: i just went back to your profile and i don't think you're looking 'heroin chic'. i think you're looking happy and healthy. and i also think your friend's husband may have been trying to be funny. i sometimes say stupid stuff like that without thinking, too. if i were you i would shrug it off to ignorance. you're doing really, really well, steph. i totally loved the wow moment with your mom. you're so lucky she's so proud of you.!!! for that, i'm jealous. hang in there with the good fight. you've done all of this for a very important person - YOU. so you're the one who gets to decide when you're at where you want to be. IMHO, of course. take care girl. thanks for sharing the wowser. dorthe

Hi Steph! U look FABULOUS! And don't let anyone else have u think different! WTG

I think you look BEAUTIFUL and HEALTHY!!! People are idiots and unfortunatly we have to deal with them in our lives!! I have learned how to tune people out...I let my eyes glaze over and I say uhhhh huh alot!! Lisa 371/341/196/140

You look great!!

I think you look very good and don't let anyone tell you different, and If you feel you need to lose more than that is up to you and only you. I know I need to lose another at least another 50 to 60 more to be at goal, and people are already telling me I don't need to, that I'll start to look sickly. I've been big pretty much all my life and there not used to me being thinner, I think it is alot of jelousy...keep up the good work and go for what you are comfortable at not what others are.... Dawn 315/204/140-healthy

Hi Stephanie, You look fabulous! Do not let them get to you, they are just probably jealous. I get things like that said to me ALL the time about being "too skinny" in one way or another. I think some people just have a hard time being supportive but do not mean harm, it just comes out the wrong way. For example, one of my friends the other day called me "Frankenstein" b/c of all the problems/surgeries I have had/having. I mean, that is totally uncalled for but on the other hand I know he is just concerned and just showed it in the wrong way. I just corrected him and told him I am not Frankenstein, that would be my surgeon b/c Frankenstein was the name of the Doctor in the novel. I would be just "the monster" as he is called. He just looked at me like he didnt understand a word I said. Ha. Anyway, you look so good and keep it up! Tavia

Steph...you look great. You've done a great job losing weight and as long as you're happy and doing great, then that's all that matters. But, like I posted before, it does drive me crazy when people make negative comments about the weight loss. Don't these people realize that we as fat people have been criticized, and put down, and been made fun of...and that is the LAST thing we need now? For the most part, all my comments from people are totally supportive...but I've heard these things...that I look sickly, that I'm losing too much, that I don't seem happy anymore (I guess it's the fat/jolly thing), and that I look older now ( I guess from the loose skin). Well...I had the surgery for a healthier, longer life...and that's what I feel that I have now... so... phooey on all the naysayers. Some people can't be happy for others because they are too sick and sad in their own lifves. Too bad there's not a surgery to fix that! Congrats on your WOW moment...may you have many more!! Sheila

Steph, I know what your talking about!!! I just had my own sister tell me the other day that I don't need to lose anymore weight because I'm getting that sunken in look to my face. You look great and you and your body will know when to stop the weight loss. From what I have read, we will lose to a point and then actually regain a little of the weight to stabilize. Keep up the good work and don't worry what others say. If your happy then they should be happy too. Di