Goal Weight Question

Morning friends. Wanting to know how many of you set a personal goal weight that is below your surgeon's goal? I have all along thought I wanted to be between 120-125 but as I get close to my surgeon's goal weight I'm thinking that will probably be enough. I'm finding that the more weight I lose, I'm beginning to look older instead of younger and I don't want my face to look gaunt. I'm wearing a size 8 pants (if the skin was gone I'd be in a 6) and a M-L shirt depending on manufacturer. I have no butt or hips left and the boobs are deflating more and more. I think I'll probably have excess skin weighing somewhere around 10 lbs and hope to one day be able to have PS. At 130 I'll have a normal BMI, your thoughts on goal weight please. Hugs, Dana Lap RNY 2-21-05 260/239/139/130

i think you should weigh where you feel most comfortable. if 130 works for you and you feel and look the way you want then i'd say stop there. my surgeon never set a goal for me i set one for myself of 175 but now i've changed it to 165. 165 puts me in the normal bmi range so that's what i was going for...the highest weight in the normal range. and size 8 pants is fantastic...i wish i could get my butt into those. i'm in the same boat as you with the skin on the tummy and the lost boobs. we'll just have to wish together that we'll get the PS!! my husband promised it to me but it'll be a good 2 years from now. he likes boobs and needs me to get a lift and possibly implants...i'm all for it. i think i'd be one of those addicted to PS people...don't tell anyone i do see a difference in my face too. my sister said it's because we don't have all that fat filling out the wrinkles anymore. i have some major lines going on my face. to me i look older but my best friend told me i look like a 16 year old now. WHATEVER!! i'm 32 i highly doubt i still look 16..i'd be happy with looking my hubby's age (25). anyway i think 130 sounds good and a size 6/8 is a great size to be! just do what's comfortable for you. Steph 350/330/180/165

Steph, I'm going to go for the 130 goal set by my surgeon but I don't want to get smaller than that. I think I'm looking tired, maybe it's my iron, who knows. I wasn't anemic when I had blood drawn in August but it was on the low end. I'm going to start taking iron and see if that helps. Yes, I'm happy in a size 8, I really can't complain. Who would have ever thought getting small could be a concern too. Dana Lap RNY 2-21-05 260/239/139/130

Hi Dana, My surgeon didn't give me a goal but I had told him my goal was 112-116 my normal weight until 2001. He smiled and never said a word but he knows I was serious. I'm 5'3 and I don't really expect to reach that goal till I have plastics done. I am loosing very slow, so much slower than our peers here on the board and yes I see the tightness going from my long skinny neck. It probably isn't as noticable to others but bothers me. From Pilates my neck muscles are so pronounced that my eye is drawn right to that little spot. Dr told me when I came back in Dec he would be referring me for p.s. He told me tummy and breastlift will be covered so I guess I will be dipping into 401k for a slight tug on my neck. Something I swore my entire life I would never need being in the skincare business. Makes me nervous to think about it but so looking forward to getting back my life completely. Almost there. If my dr's goal is 141 that brings me right to normal BMI and that is 8 more pounds. I'm in 6's and 8's but I don't dare put on jeans, it might depress me and I rather be happy.

Ginny, you are doing great 6/8's are wonderful. I'm sure with PS I'll be smaller, I just don't like the tired look I see when I look at myself now. I want to feel good but look good also and I'm experiencing lots of tiredness still. I never have gotten the energized feeling some get, who knows why. I know I need to do more exercise, I do what I can when I have time but with 2 children (5 1/2 & 4), working full time and taking care of the house, sometimes I don't get to do it. Wishing you the best! Dana

I had originally set my goal for 125-135 @5'5. Now that I'm at 145 and have mysteriously gained an inch to make me 5'6. I used to slouch all the time before so I'm sure that had a lot to do with it (along with all that excess weight pulling me down mentaly and physically). Now that I feel normal I stand tall and am very proud of my accomplishments. I dont want to lose more than the extra skin from my tummy tuck. I willl probably have around 10-15lbs removed from my tummy since its REALLY bad, worse than Miss Dollys, (maybe I'll get brave and put em on later hope you guys dont get too grossed out). My bmi is inside the normal range (the high end, but hey normals normal!). I am very happy with how I look now other than the excess skin and droopy boobs. I still have my hips and enough rear end to keep me from being flat back there, so I'm thankful for that. My body fat is very low already, my surgeons told me to STOP since I actually do have a large frame(hmm I always thought it was just fat, but I like his answer better!) and very little body fat. I guess since I have never been this low I didnt realize what it would look like once I got here. I was probably a good 175 in middle school and was 5'2 (of course it picked up from there) I would go with what you feel comfortable and healthy with. I think 130 will look great on you. Your 6 month pic you looked wonderful already! I dont want to be gaunt looking and if I lose much more I'll get that way. I didnt realize it though untill I got to this weight. Just get to 130 (youre so close already!) and go from there. I personally think 120 might be too low, but thats just me and remember everyone carries weight differently. My aunt is 5'2 as well and weighs 118 and just looks too thin, almost sick especially in her face. I think she should gain about 5-10lbs just to not look so emaciated. In the end just go with what youre comfortable with. If you get to 130 and think that you need to lose 10 more pounds go for it, but I really would just wait and see, especially since you want a tummy tuck later. If youre in an 8 now and lose 10lbs(putting you right around 130) you'll more than likely get to a 6. 10 more and a tummy tuck you would probably get in a 2, so keep that in mind too. Youre doing soo great!! Krystle

My goal weight is actually higher than my surgeon's goal. *L* I KNOW he's a doctor, but I think he is being unrealistic. He set my goal weight at 140-145...Well, ladies and gents, I'm 5'11. I think I would look sickly at that weight. I started out at 311 lbs...surgery was February 10th. I'm now at 208. Personally, I'm just trying to get under 200. *L* And according to the BMI scale, I could weigh 179 and be officially "normal weight". Everyone that has known me says I look much smaller than my weight, thanks to my height. I am wearing at 14...could probably wear a 10 if it wasn't for the skin. I ALREADY have a consulation scheduled for Jan 23rd for abdominoplasty after visiting with my PCP. He took one look at my panni (I was actually there because of anemia!) and said, "Oh yeah, they're gonna approve that" (We have TriCare)..*crosses fingers* Hopefully they'll at least let me get to my year re-birth date before I have a surgery date.

Mine is actually higher than my surgeons. His is 160 or less, mine is 175 or so. I will be happy when I look like I want. I try not to focus too much on numbers.

My surgeons goal for me is 182 which is too high, being that I'm 5'1" - I used to weigh about 125lbs but I'll be happy with around 140. ~~Melissa~~ 297/195/140

dANa! wOW! I didn't even recognize you in ur 7 mo PO PHOTOS!! Your looking SooOoOo good! We're still treading about at the same loss! I set my own goal weight of 115 lbs, but I have two sisters that are the same height as me that weigh that much, so I had a little guidance in that. I think that may be to skinny for me in the end because it freaks me out right now to see my knuckles, wrist bones, COLLAR BONES, and ribs! EW! Never in my life have I ever even seen these bones, so it's taking some time to get used to. Lap 237/138/115 rny 2/16/05