Life goes on!
Well, my friends...I've been debating posting this latest drama in my life. I've decided to go through with it. I think it will help me to move on and get beyond the pain.
My cousin, age 52 and I have grown close over the past 10 years. She has a twin sister who had gastric bypass surgery in August. Her sister had a slew of complications and has been in and out of the hospital with surgery related issues. My cousin was very interested in my journey and I shared everything with her last May when I visited. Following my visit she wanted to also have the surgery. She was 5'2" and was topping out about 270 pounds.
She had her gastric bypass surgery on March 1, my 36th birthday. She died on March 2 of a pulmonary embolism.
She was a strong and determined woman with tremendous gifts. I will never be able to look at my surgery materials, she wrote all over them. I will never be able to talk to her about our lives and hopes and dreams again. I miss her. I miss her presence in my life.
Now I'm sad!
Denise
Oh Denise,
I am so sorry for your loss. It is so sad that your cousin at age 52 dies from complications of the surgery that could have saved her life.
My mother died on the same day and I miss her so much. But she was 90 and had lived her life and followed her dreams. She was tired and all her family (birth family) and friends were already gone.
I'm sorry you are sad. Her presence in your life though should continue through your memories - don't you think.
Denise you and your family are in my prayers. You take care.
Paula
I'm so sorry for you and the rest of the family. I hope you're not blaming yourself for sharing with her. To have surgery is a personal choice and from you've said, she did all of her own research and came to her own conclusions.
I trust you have wonderful memories of her to hold on to and will live each day of the rest of YOUR life in rich, full, celebration just like she would have wanted you to.
Lots of love,
Julie