Seing Family Different

Hello Everyone, Well we are taking a family vacation soon to see the family we haven't seen in years. My Mother-N-Law 7 Sister-n-laws 9 Brother-n-laws and 10 newphews and 7 neices. Will they notice I've lost 140 pounds? I am very nervous. We will be in Idaho for the upcoming Holiday's so it's a long drive for us. We need it after the tough year from the loss of my mother. Seeing family is just what I need and hope things go good. I really need the love and support now. I get to buy smaller jackets and sweats for the trip Yippieeeeeeeeee..... Has anyone else seen family or friends they haven't for a while? Did they notice or say anything? Wishing everyone a Healthy & Happy Holiday and New Years! Jill

Hi Jill, I am so sorry about the loss of your mother. My mother is 91 and I know it is going to be awful when she passes. I hope your trip to see your family goes well. Don't be nervous. I hope they can surround you with love and support. You have my support. Congratulations on your 140# weight loss. Surely your family will notice. But, don't be upset if they don't say anything. There might be some jealousy. Hope not. Hey how exciting about new smaller sweats and jackets. Just did that this weekend. Last year I was a 3X (fat) woman, now I am a medium misses!! I hope you have a restful and fullfilling vacation, Paula

Jill, Of course you are going to have the nay sayers . I went home for the Thanksgiving hoilday to see my folks. You would think I would get more "you look great" and "good for you", but I got mostly "you need to tone more" and "you don't need to lose anymore" and a even few "you don't look right". I just said to "h*&#" with them. I recognize jealousy when it rears its ugly head. I look great, I feel great and I have not one regret. Just expect your family to notice, their reaction will be test. Happy Holidays....

Jill, You will have some who notice, some who don't. Know within yourself that you have done GREAT and look awesome. Over the last few months I have had mixed emotions/reactions from family/friends. Some I don't believe is jealousy but rather that they feel badly for themselves. Yes, there has been some jealousy but most has been positive feedback. Some days I don't see the changes in myself UNTIL I look at the before photos and my current photo and then I'm blown away. Have a wonderful holiday. Mary

Jill, I just spent Thanksgiving with my brother and his family my sister in law cried because for the first time in the 20 years she has been a part of our family she could put her arms around me to hug me. I have lost 120 since the last time I saw them and 107 since surgery. My brother he would look at me and then finally on the second day told me it is really hard to talk to you the voice is the same but your not the body is different I am 10 years older than him and have always been heavy right now I weigh just about 20 pounds less than I did in 9th grade so he has no memory of me any smaller than I am right now, so he told me it was just going to be easier to talk to me on the phone til he could get used to it. Funny thing is his wife has lost over 100lbs with WLS but like he said he watched her lose it every day. So I would say yes expect for everyone to notice a big difference and maybe wonder if your husband has a new wife LOL. Have fun and a safe trip. Nancy