Rotten Co-workers

There it is Paula.. the dreaded "a" word (anorexia)... I heard that, too. My personal goal has always been 130. I don't give a hoot what anyone says. 130 is right in the middle of the healthy weight scale, which is why I chose it in the first place. My face is also a bit gaunt, but I am fair skinned and have been over 300 pounds (intermittently) since I was about 22. And, more importantly, there is less fat there now. Another thing... I sometimes look washed out at this weight, and when I weighed 327. It is the color of my skin, and not my "hidden eating disorder" (yup.. that was told to me, too). I resent what happened yesterday, and tears have been replaced by anger. How DARE this woman and the "people" I work with (supposedly) make all these assnine assumptions about me. Had I stayed very heavy, they would be talking about that, too... From here on in, I am not going to waste any more time or energy trying to understand the hows and whys. Clearly, this is cruel, and the idea was to make me feel bad. Yesterday, it did. Today, I shake my head. Andrea

Andrea, Just know that you are not the only one getting these comments. I hear it at work as well. "how much more are you going to lose - you need to stop." "You look so thin - why do you want to get smaller?" and on and on ad nauseum. I just want to say to all these folks. I do think they are only saying it because they are worried. I am trying to attribute positive motives to their behavior. I really have to laugh as these are the same people who would never comment on my obesity for fear of offending me but sure feel OK commenting on my wieght loss! Oh well - they are just jealous of the fabulous goddesses we are becoming! Keep smiling - it will make them wonder what you are up to! Liz

Andrea, I know excatly how you feel. All of my friends have now decided that I've lost too much weight and don't eat enough. I weigh 152 lbs and am 5'7". I think its because people were so used to seeing us "big" that they can't adjust to our new and improved size. I just smile and ignore them. By the way, by the looks of your picture, you look just right and fabulous!! Julie

Hi Andrea I know how you feel.Actually I dont feel like I fit in .I went to a WLS group support meeting .Most are waiting for surgery=.When they got around table a group of woman said "We were wondering why you were here.?" boy I felt welcome!I am thin but will always feel the same way.I am struggling with the way people treat me on this side now.Ive come to think either people are mean or just have no clue how to treat one another.Just be happy for yourself Im happy for you and Im also 135 and 5 4" Doesent it feel great. Your co workers are just in shock of such a fast change and probably dont mean to be snippy!