Sad days

I don't get to post often especially now that I am training for a promotion. But I am in such a bad place right now. I found out Friday my Grandpa (dads side) passed away that morning. I spent the entire drive (10 hrs) to KY driving and crying. I met my Mom to pick up my kids (they spent the summer). She tells me that my Grandma (mom's side) may have cancer. They are pretty sure she does but because they all live in Canada and have socialized medicine, the doctors have decided to wait until October to do the colonoscopy to find out for sure. Then if they do diagnose cancer they will not even try to treat her because she has Alzhimers and they figure her quality of life is low already so why waste the resources. Then Monday I took my youngest to the doctor because his ankles are turning in and it turns out he has ligimentitis which will require physical therapy. I thank God it wasn't worse and normally I wouldn't be upset about it at all since it is not a permanant condition but it seems on top of everything else it is hard to be happy about anything. I have lost about 6 lbs since Friday because I can't eat. I drink water but I just haven't been hungry and anything I eat just seems to sit on my stomach like a rock. I know I will get past this and there are things that are good in my life it is so hard to see them sometimes. Okay I am finished with my whine fest. I appreciate you listening to me. I will write something good next time I promise.

I am sorry to hear about your sad times. Dealing with hard times is so much more different post WLS. I will pray that you get through this in a healthy way and I will pray for all of your problems. Hang in there and it is ok to vent here. I dont post often either but I do read the board. I felt compelled to respond to your post today. .......

Hi Susan, First of all, you are not whining. I'm sorry you are having bad times. We all know how precious our family is to us and the pulling at your heart when something is wrong. Please accept my condolences on your grandfather's death. Being unexpected it probably left you in shock. I'm sorry about your grandma too. Much as we complain about our insurance companies here, at least we can be seen and treated in a timely manner. Your little one will be just fine. Like you said on top of everything else it is more upsetting. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Please take good care of yourself. Don't let yourself get run down. Then you won't be able to help anyone. Do you have someone there to support you? I hope so. Know everyone here loves and cares for you. If there is anything I can help you with please email me. I'm a good listener. Paula A.

Hello Susan, I am sorry you are having sad times. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.Please try to take care of yourself because we are not as strong as we were pre op.You need to eat even if it's just a protien drink,your body needs it. Please know your not alone. Take Care, Trisha

Susan, My condolances to you and your family. I lost my grandpa 18 years ago but it still seems recent. My mom passed away last summer unexpectly and I am in shock still. I know what you mean about not wanting to eat and your stomach yucky. I cry every day too, it is hard to control the tear flow. I can tell you to try to relax and maybe try to do some reading about your loss. Make sure though you eat protien, it is really important that you do, your grandpa would want you to take care of yourself. I will pray for your grandma. Keep your chin up~ Best Wishes Jill

I am so sorry you are having a challenging time right now. There's some good going on around you. You are alive and able to tell us how you are feeling. It's going to get better. Hang in there and try to eat something even if it's just soup. HUGS! Shirley

Sending you hugs, hope things get better. It is so hard when a family member passes away. Focus on the wonderful times with them. It will make you smile. Mary