Living with the Food Police

I can eat a bit of sugar without problem and while at a party Friday night, I decided to have some of the dessert being offered. ( Bear in mind, I was well within my calorie range and had already had 89 grams of protein that day because I planned ahead ). My DH made it a point to tell me that I didn't need to eat it and that I was "really getting off my diet." IT MADE ME SO MAD! I didn't have surgery to live on a diet forever...I am working hard at making good choices and DO 99% of the time. I pretty much told him (nicely of course) to mind his own business and let me monitor my own food intake. Anyone else living with the food police or am I the only one? Julie 247/174

My husband and parents make some comments, but nothing that has really gotten to me. I have told them that surgery was MY choice and what I choose to put into my mouth is always my choice so I did not need or want their commentary. I get the looks from my husband sometimes but I ignore them. It's hard for me, because I'm still the same person I was before surgery, with a much smaller stomach. I try not to deprive myself of food I want, just reducing the quantity. It's my life and I'll eat cake if I want to, cake if I want to, cake if I want to....

Know what I hate? When my DH says I am eating a LOT more. He never says it like he is insinuating I am eating too much but he keeps refering to how I ate at 1-2 motnhs out. Of course I am eating more. We all are. But I always feel piggish when he says that. He in no way means it as an insult. Just a comment that I can eat more. I always say that is expected because the further out you go, the more you can eat. But it still makes me feel like I am doing something wrong. The food police live everywhere!!!!!! Joanne

Hal will mention something if I am asking him to share his M&Ms with me ... now realize sharing means giving me 3 of them out of the whole package. He's finally come to realize that I am being sensible not testing the limits and that 3 of those M&Ms are mine if he is going to buy a pack of them. I don't always make him give them up. Other than that no problems. It is hard to have people feel the need to monitor what we eat. Maybe we need to turn the tables and monitor them as I am sure most people don't eat properly 100% of the time. Mary 305/203/125???

I have had a similar experience as Joanne. My Dad mentions on ocassion that I am eating way more. I tell him that I'd die if I had to eat like a 1-2 month post op! I see it in myself though too. Sometimes I feel like I am "pigging out" when in fact, I'm still eating only a tiny fraction of what I used to pre-op. I think it's all in the head!

Omg! My husband sometimes gets me upset too. I know that he means well but come on I am not on parole and you are not my parole officer. He always says that I am eating too much and that I can't eat this or that cause I will get sick. One of these days I think that I will explode but I have to keep in mind that he means well.