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Hi Everyone. I took a little time away from the boards during Momma Angels death. I lost my mom only 7 short months ago and it was too fresh in my head. I couldn't be on the boards. I am back and with not so great news on the WLS front. I am still on my plateau. It has been over a month. I am so disgusted with it and myself. I feel like I am eating all the time but my choices are usually protein based. Nothing has helped. I tried increasing my calories like everyone suggested and I GAINED two pounds. I tried more protein, nothing, water, nothing, exercise, nothing. I am so sick of this. Here's the thing, years ago I lost 50 lbs and got down to a snug 14 and 212 lbs. Then I started gaining it back. This time, I finally saw the scale read 212!! Then I gained back 2 lbs. I am in a snug 14 now and haven't lost anything, including inches for over a month. It is like my body will not lose anymore. It wants to stay at 215 now. I am 4 months out and I think it is over. I think I am going to gain it back, just like before. Dan told me to clean out the closet of clothes that don't fit. I CAN'T do that!!!! I think I am going to gain it back and need the clothes. This is so aggrevating. I know common sense says I will continue to lose. But my head and body are telling me something else. Geez.....someone tell me I am WRONG. And I WILL keep losing. Joanne

You are WRONG...and you WILL keep losing!! (you told me to tell you!! LOL) I was doing the same thing, but then all of a sudden, I just started to lose again. I think the key to my problem was WATER and exercize. When I started walking more, I started losing more..... At least you are in a 14 @ 212! That is awesome!! I am in a 12/14 and am at 184- - go figure ??? I always KNEW that I was built funny!! Hahahaha Anyway...things will get better; just give it a little time, and prayer! Have a great today, and BETTER tomorrow! Sherri C 242/184/140 RNY 2/16/04

HeeHee...your not built funny, I am just tall. I am 5'11" so at that height, 212 puts you in a 14 snuggly. Thank you for your concern. I love this MB. I am going to go drink a shake now.

Joanne, YOU ARE WRONG, YOU WILL KEEP LOSING. Your body just needs a break/a time to regroup/rest and then it will start allowing you to lose again. Keep doing all the right things. Another thing to try that may help is to cut out all of the salt and any above 20 carbs during the day. Salt and carbs both can cause you to retain fluids. I know it is frustrating and difficult at times. But it is going to happen. I agree with Dan, get rid of the larger clothes. As long as the too big clothes are around your mind set is still that you are going to fail. You need to embrace the new mind set that you are a success and will be an even greater one over the coming weeks and months. I believe in you and your ability to succeed. Please believe in yourself too. Mary

Joanne, Forgot to ask. Are you eating a lot of cheese as a protein source? If yes, trying cutting it out and see if that makes a difference. Cheese is great except it is loaded with sodium and fat and definitely could affect your weight loss. Sending you hugs, Mary

I wouldn't say a lot of cheese but I do eat cheese a few times a week. Only an ounce at a time though.

Scary isn't it, to think we're repeating old patterns? But we're NOT....This is temporary, Joanne and I'm confident that you'll continue to lose. Why wouldn't you? You're perfectly healthy and normal and if it works for everyone else, it will work for you. My SIL had this surgery on Labor Day; She lost 50 lbs in 3 months; then nothing from Halloween to Christmas and was sure she was done. Abruptly, she dropped another 35 pounds in 7 weeks for a 6 month total of 90 lbs....and she's still losing. You'll be fine! Throw out the old clothes and go buy something new (even if it's used..it's new to you!) Love to you..... Julie

Joanne, you write with such despair. Don't let what it's your head win this battle for you. We have all been slaves to our cravings for so long. Let this battle be a win for you. I know, cut the psychological crap, so I will. You have come so far and are so much SMALLER than ME. I still have about 60 pounds on you. I have not been a size 14 since I was 14 years old. Try to look at what you are doing and do some different things as far as what you are eating and doing. Don't graze, I was doing that, thinking it was cool. We have to use surgery as a tool. You've been so supportive to many of us, keep that beautiful chin up and stay off the scale until after July 4.

I do feel despair. I have waited so long for this and when this moment comes and I can't get below 212 just like before, I paniced. I have to wait it out though....no other choice obviously.

Scary isn't it, to think we're repeating old patterns? BOY THIS IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT!!!!!!! Very scary!!!!!!! I did buy new clothes but still have a hard time getting rid of the olds. I know I have to do it. Your SIL story gives me hope. Thanks!