Attitudes
Hello Everyone, I have a question ,have you noticed a difference in peoples attitudes towards you since wls ? I have lost a hundred and three pounds in a lil over three months.I am getting use to the compliments but I have people opening doors for me, giving their undivided attention. I can remember going into stores and being ignored ,but now it seems as if everyone notices me.Just walking down the street people greet me now with a smile and a hello. Before this surgery it's like I was invisable or they just didn't want to talk to me. The world has become a friendlier place or am I just crazy?
Hey there , and congrats on the great weight loss your doing so good.. and i believe people attitudes do change because we change. we change in the way we see the world and act. we smile more and we've not afraid to make eye contact now. so much has happened to us in the last 3 months, and all for the better. hugggs Mary oppps i am dowm 89 pounds
People do pay more attention to you when you lose weight, i beleive part of that is their perception and judgement about fat people. I was never one to walk with my head down, but I have noticed that when I was at my full weight (397), people would try not to make eye contact with me. Whether it was their own disgust at my size, or their inability to deal with it, I have no idea. I was perceived as "scary" by new employees. Funny thing is, I've lost nearly 100 pounds now, and new people still find me intimidating, even when I go out of my way to be nice.
The world becomes friendlier when you "fit" into the "normal" scheme of what people are taught is "normal". People have a terrible tendency to label and pigeonhole people because it's comfortable for them. It's part of why I have always loved being a non conformist, and pushing their envelopes. I refuse to be boxed into a nice neat package, and it drives even my closest friends crazy that they cannot adequately describe me when asked to.
Candy
-96 since 2/3/04
Hello Cindy, Congrads on your weight loss. I do feel like I physically fit into society now. Its not a bad thing. I never looked people in the eyes when I was super morbidly obese. I always saw their discust at how I looked. Now I look people in the eye's not because I fit in but because I love who I am now not only physically but emotionally as well. I have alot of self esteem now something I never had before. I have come along way and could careless what the world thinks of me or my life style. I am a happier person now than I have ever been. I dont purposely try not to conform , I am just myself and am finally happy with myself. All my friends have always known how to describe me. I am different , yet kind and compassionate and sometimes a little crazy. Life is so short and I celebrate everyday now being alive. Take care Trish
Trisha,
Congratulations on your excellent progress!
Yes, I notice that people treat me differently too. They don't have the negative reactions they used to. For the people I knew before WLS, I think its just that they are seeing progress. Some of them are actually supportive. For the strangers, and people I never new before, I know this can't be due to the change in me, except that I do have a better attitude, and I am much happier now than before. I am more confident and I don't shy away like I used to. I'm sure this has much to do with how stranges react to us. I have had people I knew before WLS comment on my new "attitude" and say that I seem happy a lot lately. Some of them that have said this have never made a single comment about how I look different. Maybe my attitude is more than my appearance to them?
Windy/Pat
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