Never thought I would say this....

I have this person I work with (luckly not in my department), she knows that I had the surgery, every time we see each other she keeps saying, "I couldn't do it. I LOVE my food."  Then goes on about all the food she loves to eat.  Then at lunch she see's me and goes, "That is all you are going to eat? I just couldn't do it." I was fine hearing it once or twice but EVERY time I see her it is like that.  I just don't know what to say.  I am very proud of my discision to have the surgery, it was a hugh step for me. But man! Should I say something to her? Or just let it be? I want to avoid her if I can. I have just run out of things to say. 

I have lost 42lbs since I have started this journey, and feeling and looking good.

Is she overweight?  It sounds like she is trying to convince herself that eating is her life!   If she could stand to lose some weight, I would say (nonchalantly)  "I used to love my food too, but eventually it got me in lots of trouble"  If she's not overweight, I would say, "Some of us can eat more than others."  When she comments about that being all you're eating, I would say, "that's all I need!"  and/or "you can do anything once you set your mind to it."   I wouldn't be mean about it, but perhaps saying something would stop her comments.  IMO, not saying anything gives her the upper hand, which you don't want!  Ignoring her is great, but since you work with her, it sounds like it might not be possible.  Good Luck!

Thanks Mimi!  That gives me some food for thought!  Yeah I probably will not be able to avoid her.  Also, she is overweight, just like me.

I keep telling her, too, that I use to be that way!  LOVE my food, but I am learning to control it.

According to all the posts I've read, eventually we'll be able to eat almost anything, in moderation -- maybe you could let her know that.  Also, when she says she couldn't eat that little, you could let her know that this is the great thing about the surgery --  you're not hungry and your body holds much less than before, so it helps you make more healthy food choices.

Sounds to me like she's a bit jealous.  Maybe when she keeps saying "I just couldn't do it", ask her if she's thinking about the surgery, and let her know you'll answer any questions.

If all else fails, just keep changing the subject -- she'll realize eventually that you don't want to talk about it.

Barbara

Thanks Barbara!  I just might say that next time. :)