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Topic: RE: Feeling like a failure
Your not a failure !! AND your only 3 weeks out which is so little time. Your body probably hasn't even healed completely as yet or adjusted to the band. Give your body time to heal and adjust first.
Also keep in mind that band patients lose slower than RNY patients. Have you had any fills on the band as yet? I know that my surgeon does not do any adjustment fills for at least a month post op so the band is at its widest opening and food will go through much quicker for that first month. This fact was heavily stressed in our pre op classes. Our advisor said that for that first month, you may not feel much difference and you will still be able to eat a larger amount. She said that it may take several months and fills to get the band adjusted properly to where you will only be able to eat small amounts and feel full for a long period of time. And you don't want to compare yourself with anyone else since we are all different and our bodies will all work differently when it comes to weight lose rate.
I know it's hard to be patient and not compare. I am actually having reservations about my husbands upcoming band surgery, only becuase I hope he doesn't get discouraged by comparing himself to me. ( I had RNY sugery on 1/23/09) I will obviously drop the weight much quicker than he will.
I think a lot of us want to see results so badly that we jump the gun and expect too much to soon. As for your father (and other uneducated people) they don't know how the process works. I think they expect to see overnight results and when they don't they are much too quick to judge.
I don't think you need a kick in the ass... I think you need support from others who have been through it. Those people who haven't been through it can't possibly understand and give proper support. Believe me... once they get that band properly adjusted, your food control issue should be easier to get under control, because if you eat too much after that, it's gonna come right back up
. Not a very pleasant thing and that will certainly give you a kick in the ass if you need it.... LOL.
Don't look at yourself as a failure.... You have only just begun your journey. Your being too hard and unfair to yourself at this early point. Keep posting here on this message forum and I know that the wonderful people here will help you through it all.
Keep your head high and keep looking towards the furture of a new life.
Take care,
Kim
Also keep in mind that band patients lose slower than RNY patients. Have you had any fills on the band as yet? I know that my surgeon does not do any adjustment fills for at least a month post op so the band is at its widest opening and food will go through much quicker for that first month. This fact was heavily stressed in our pre op classes. Our advisor said that for that first month, you may not feel much difference and you will still be able to eat a larger amount. She said that it may take several months and fills to get the band adjusted properly to where you will only be able to eat small amounts and feel full for a long period of time. And you don't want to compare yourself with anyone else since we are all different and our bodies will all work differently when it comes to weight lose rate.
I know it's hard to be patient and not compare. I am actually having reservations about my husbands upcoming band surgery, only becuase I hope he doesn't get discouraged by comparing himself to me. ( I had RNY sugery on 1/23/09) I will obviously drop the weight much quicker than he will.
I think a lot of us want to see results so badly that we jump the gun and expect too much to soon. As for your father (and other uneducated people) they don't know how the process works. I think they expect to see overnight results and when they don't they are much too quick to judge.
I don't think you need a kick in the ass... I think you need support from others who have been through it. Those people who haven't been through it can't possibly understand and give proper support. Believe me... once they get that band properly adjusted, your food control issue should be easier to get under control, because if you eat too much after that, it's gonna come right back up
. Not a very pleasant thing and that will certainly give you a kick in the ass if you need it.... LOL.Don't look at yourself as a failure.... You have only just begun your journey. Your being too hard and unfair to yourself at this early point. Keep posting here on this message forum and I know that the wonderful people here will help you through it all.
Keep your head high and keep looking towards the furture of a new life.
Take care,
Kim
Topic: Feeling like a failure
I was 3 weeks out yesterday. I'm having trouble with my port incision (going to ocala today to get that checked out****ep going between 5 and 7 pounds lost :0( and I've been unable to control myself with FOOD!!!!!!!!!! 
I get hungry or just bored and think I need to eat. Not getting the protein or water I need. Maybe this was a mistake. My dad looks at me like Im gonna fail. All he does i nag at me. I don't feel good about myself. I feel like nothing has changed. I need a good big kick in the ass with a big boot (by someone besides my dad) I've got to get control!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I get hungry or just bored and think I need to eat. Not getting the protein or water I need. Maybe this was a mistake. My dad looks at me like Im gonna fail. All he does i nag at me. I don't feel good about myself. I feel like nothing has changed. I need a good big kick in the ass with a big boot (by someone besides my dad) I've got to get control!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
Topic: 3 Weeks -- Anyone Else Out There?
Anyone else out there at 3 weeks? How are you doing?
I'm OK- eating about 3/4 cup semi-solid per meal. I'm trying to figure out if I am getting lots of gas from onions or milk -- either is a problem because we use both on a daily basis around here.
What are you using for protein supplementation? I am getting tired ot tasting AnyWhey in everything I eat. Are there any protein supps out there that really don't add a distinctive taste of their own to food?
I know we can't compare, but I'm down 17 pounds, feel my clothes getting a little baggy and loving it!
I'm OK- eating about 3/4 cup semi-solid per meal. I'm trying to figure out if I am getting lots of gas from onions or milk -- either is a problem because we use both on a daily basis around here.
What are you using for protein supplementation? I am getting tired ot tasting AnyWhey in everything I eat. Are there any protein supps out there that really don't add a distinctive taste of their own to food?
I know we can't compare, but I'm down 17 pounds, feel my clothes getting a little baggy and loving it!
Topic: RE: Nausea
Hey Kandice, so glad you are home and surgery went well! I would call your doctor and get something for nausea, you are going through so much already and still in some pain, so the doctor should give you something to stop the nausea. My doctor sent me home with a Rx of anti nausea meds to take if I needed to because the Dilauded they had me on made me so sick. I hope you feel better soon!
Topic: RE: Jan 14ers, first meal was??
So far fish has been working for me. Tuna w/mayo, tilapia in cream of chicken soup, and sardines (a little metallic tasting) have all stayed down. It's crazy to me that 1.5 ozs, takes me 30 min to finish. The only thing is I need o have something to drink to help it down. Even though I know it's a no-no, I've always been that way. So I try to get in as much food as possible, then I take a sip. So fa so good.
Robbyn
Topic: RE: I'm home!!!
Thanks for the update! I am so happy to hear that you are doing well!!
Jaime
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Start/Preop/current/goal
248/236/224/140
Topic: RE: I'm home!!!
Oh I am so glad to hear you are home and all went well. I had my consult today and if all goes as planned I should be having mine the beginining to the middle of March. Yippeee.
Keep us posted. xoxo.
Keep us posted. xoxo.
Topic: RE: I'm home!!!
Amanda,
Welcome home and welcome to the losers bench. So happy to hear your surgery and hospital stay went well. Keep us posted on how you're doing and you're on your way now.
Hugs,
Barb
Welcome home and welcome to the losers bench. So happy to hear your surgery and hospital stay went well. Keep us posted on how you're doing and you're on your way now.
Hugs,
Barb
Topic: RE: Nausea
Kandice,
Welcome home. Sorry to hear you are feeling pukey though. I would surely call your surgeon because they might be able to give you something for that and you won't have to suffer until it passes.
Warm thoughts and prayers coming your way.
Barb
Topic: RE: Finally home!
Carmela,
Welcome home and welcome to the losers bench. Glad to hear everything went well. Please keep us posted on how you're doing.
Barb
Welcome home and welcome to the losers bench. Glad to hear everything went well. Please keep us posted on how you're doing.
Barb
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