I was sleeved on jan. 14th....I had lettuce for the first time yesterday, ate it for lunch and dinner. THen again today for lunch. Actually sat really well, better than what I thought it was going to. It was a great alternative to what I had been eating- oriental chicken salad....yum!

You're NOT pathetic, you know what you want and the men that have been in your life don't.  It took me a long time to figure out just how different men think, but it's true.  Your current boyfriend may really want to get married to you, but they are so scared of change or the word commitment (even if you are all they want) that they feel comfortable the way things are and don't want to change it.  I knew it took me to get up enough courage to tell him that I couldn't wait any longer and that I needed to move on.  We separated for about 6 months and when he seen me getting on with my life, he couldn't handle it and couldn't imagine his life without me.  The rest is history.  My mom always said if it's meant to be it will be, not that it helped at those times you need their support and encouragement but I do beleive not that it is true.  I did think that the breakup was the hardest thing I ever had to do since I felt in my heart that he was my soulmate, but it did make me a stronger person inside for it.

Not sure if that helps or not :)  We are here for you no matter what you decide to do.  You are a strong woman so no matter what you decide you will get be just fine.  Hey you are on a path in your life that is making you happier, healthier and stronger :)  Hang in there.

Kim

i just needed a place to go w/ this info.  i could have blogged but i want input.  this is about relationships.  i've been in several long-term relationships and i'm tired of waiting for marriage.  it's sad but i'd rather be pursuing married life or be alone!  my first serious relationship was when i was 20 and lasted for 4 years, he was bad news-drugs, i supported him for 3 years and he was pulling me into a life i knew i didn't want.  i was engaged to him for 2 years and i finally left him.  after that i had a 2.5 year relationship w/ an amazing guy but he felt he wasn't a man yet and couldn't commit long-term to me and going down a path that didn't involve a family i couldn't see the point so we went our seperate ways (this was in 2007 and he's getting married on sunday).  i let my current boyfriend know at the very beginning of our relationship that i'm looking for a future husband and a family.  i let him know i was tired of failed relations and i wanted more than just a short term thing.  he agreed and was seeking the same.  well here it is 1 year and 2 mons later and all talk.  he does want to marry me but there's no action.  i told him today that 'i'd rather be alone than wait on my future'.  he said, 'really' and walked away.  i am livid and that's fine.  i feel like a pathetic failure and i have the 'me' part down.  i'm okay w/ being alone and if that's what i'll be, no problem.  i want a family more than anything so there's a part of me that thinks-if a man seriously asked me to marry him i would.  that tells me i'm sad and desperate-maybe have some more internal work to do.  what the **** is wrong with me?

My nut said no lettuce for 6-8 months after surgery! i suppose everyone is different but i did try to sneak some and ended up throwing it up. Needless to say i wont be trying it anytime soon!

1 cup oatmeal ( not instant )
1 cup peanut butter
1 cup protein powder ( I like choc, can use vanilla also)
5-6 tbsp splenda

Heat PB in micro about 30 seconds to soften, mix in remaining ingredients, moisten with a little dribble of water if it is too dry to stick together...Roll into balls about walnut size...I usually roll the balls in sf cocoa mix for a little extra chocolate zing...

makes 25-30 balls ( serving 1

Stats :  107 cals, 7 fat, 3.5 carbs, 10 protein

Really yummy treat, not for multiple use daily, carbs will slow down loss during beginning phase...My nut did not authorize me to eat this recipe until I was over 6 months out...

Hope you like 'em......